Don't think I'm too impressionable, but I'm getting more and more pressured when our team lead goes through my mistakes all over the office and never says that I do most of the work right and I try never to repeat mistakes. It is very hard for me that everyone in our company overhears this, but I can not influence it in any way.

I am not a person who will be lazy and lazy, and I try to correctly combine the end of my university studies and work and gain experience, but at work I am literally afraid to even get up and go for coffee, because I am afraid to attract the attention of everyone, knowing what they think of me.

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    Can you expand a little more on what's going on? How is his feedback on your mistakes being broadcast "all over the office", is it in standups or large meetings of some sort? Is this how everyone else gets feedback as well or is it just you? Have you talked to any colleagues or your team lead about this to see why, how they cope, say "I would rather get critique in private please,"...?
    – mxyzplk
    Commented Apr 6, 2021 at 22:28
  • mxyzplk,it's a small company and we all work in the same office, he just needs to speak out loud.It is impossible to say something in person without leaving the office
    – Kate
    Commented Apr 6, 2021 at 23:03
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    Is the team lead singling you out in particular? Or does everyone on the team get some?
    – Kilisi
    Commented Apr 6, 2021 at 23:36
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    If your team lead is a bully, consider trying to find a new employer. Commented Apr 7, 2021 at 0:28
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    One thing to remember: you do not know what everyone thinks of you. If people are busy they are more likely focused on their own work rather than someone who is entry-level. Or they may be thinking "wow, the boss is a jerk". Don't assume anything.
    – DaveG
    Commented Apr 7, 2021 at 0:43

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I have similar people working with me. Know that whatever you'll do, they'll find a way to criticize your work. So don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Learn as much as you can and do what you can, then stop worrying about it. Accept the fact that you're going to get "scolded" anyway, and that nobody respects people who bellitle others for simple mistakes.

You have the right to make mistakes and your team lead makes mistakes too. Don't be ashamed of yourself. Just work normally and get used to him being a d*** until you find a better job. Know that nobody will think bad of you because of a little mistake, they will however, think bad of your team leader because he puts you on display like that. So go get your coffee with pride and don't care about what people think of you when you're doing the right thing.

A final little note, you may be experiencing social anxiety (not wanting to get coffee because you're afraid of what people think of you sounds a lot like me). So maybe you should see a therapist if this becomes persistent or if the symptoms worsen.

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