One day my boss sent in our team chat group a screenshot of his conversations with one of his former subordinates who is now working in a giant. In a conversation my former colleague(the mentioned guy) kind of flattered him that what she was doing in our company was much more advanced than what she is doing now in the new company. And thus my boss encouraged us that we should be confident in what we are doing now.

But many of my colleagues and I just disagreed with his blind self-confidence, and we discussed the facts and the true gap offline. One of my colleagues said in the chat group that it would be untrue and provided some strong evidence, and our boss didn't say anything more. I think he may have realized his mistake.

I think his motives are good but he didn't find the right method, but I don't know how to save his face and realize his purpose: build the team's confidence and help the team to grow? Is it possible?

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    Why do you feel you need to do anything? Just pretend it never happened. Apr 17, 2021 at 11:22
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    I think you are asking two questions. Firstly, how to help your boss recover from this mistake and like Philip says, I don't think you need to. Mistakes are an inevitable part of trying stuff, just forget about it and move on. The second part is about building the team's confidence in what they are doing and to answer that I think you should ask a separate question detailing what you are doing and why the team is not confident. Apr 17, 2021 at 11:32
  • What is untrue - this chat? That means your boss has faked it?
    – puck
    Apr 18, 2021 at 12:18
  • @puck The advantage is not true.
    – Lerner
    Apr 18, 2021 at 12:37
  • @mattfreake It seems that we lack confidence, but we don't know how to encourage ourselves.
    – Lerner
    Apr 18, 2021 at 12:38

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Just take him at his word and don't get involved with other people putting him down.

Nothing constructive about joining in.


If that is now the last message in the group chat, I would send a message to change the focus of the conversation, some new result, or some work question, just to move on. Otherwise, just ignore it.

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