Two weeks ago, I was looking for work and I reached out to a consultant friend of mine to ask if they had any work they could send my way. It turned out, the company he's Consulting for is a long-term engagement and he's looking to hire more people to work with him.
The job had some benefits I was really interested in, but it uses some technology I'm not passionate about. He practically offered me a job on the spot, but I wasn't sure if the pros outweigh the cons, so I asked for two weeks to think about it.
Those two weeks will end in 3 days. After talking to him, I found another company that was my ideal job, but their application process took so long, I completed it yesterday.
What I really want to do is work at this other company, but I have no idea when they will get back to me or if they would be interested in hiring me.
I also think it would be unethical to take my friend's job and leave within a few weeks if the preferred company gives me an offer.
Telling the truth seems like it would be pretty rude: "Your job sounds pretty good but I think I have a shot at working at my dream job. You were already generous by waiting two weeks before I gave you an answer, but would you mind waiting indefinitely until I figure out if I get my dream job? If I don't, I'll come work with you instead."
Is there any way to ask for a second extension to deciding on a job offer without burning any bridges?
This is probably some important context: this person is more of an acquaintance than a friend. In the past, we worked at the same company together, but never on the same team. I have worked with his wife on two occasions and we get along really well and her husband has always seemed like a nice guy I would enjoy working with. I care more about burning a bridge than extending my decision, because I really like them both.
My friend is offering the ability to work 30 hours a week, and that means a lot to me because I value my free time. My dream job is also offering this. I am a software engineer, and part-time jobs seem pretty rare. That's why, if I didn't land my dream job, I'm pretty sure I want to work for him. It feels unlikely that I could find another job out there that's offering part-time employment. That's the reason I don't want to just turn the offer down. It would benefit me more if I could ask for another extension.