I guess my co-worker/team member is angry over me for few reasons and he is not providing updates or taking up tasks as before. Context is, my teammate and I were working in a project for more than two years and I consider him as my brother in one way. I am also leading the team and in one evening, I asked him updates on few of the tasks via skype. I have listed out the pending tasks with him and have asked
"When can I expect an update on the below tasks?"
I did not get any updates from him on these tasks. After this incident, my relation with him has changed completely. He was out sick for one week and I kind of feel that he is angry over me and is protesting by not working/progressing on any other tasks. I also do not want to take this up to my higher-ups as this person is really good and has good relation with everyone else in the team. Even today, his skype status shows him away for hours and no response from him too. I am not able to understand whether this behavior is due to me asking updates on the pending tasks or due to any other behavior.
And this is also affecting me to a great extent. I do not want to play the victim card here but I am afraid that my words are affecting others personally and I am in constantly evaluating each and every word that comes out from my mouth.
Basically, I am afraid to ask for updates from my team thinking that I may hurt them personally.