Summary: I am looking for software development jobs in South Africa. Many companies offer a "free lunch" perk. I want my workday to be very formal, without mingling, or developing personal relationships. Is it possible to work at such a place with free communal lunches and not develop close personal relationships?
I'm at the beginning of searching for Web Development work. I see a lot of things that give me the indication that these places are a lot more informal than what I would like. One of the things I see a lot of are job postings on LinkedIn that mention that the company provides free lunches. Now, at face value this just seems like something nice that appreciative companies may do for their employees, but I have some concerns.
I just think that my work as a web developer has taken years of preparation to get to the point where I can do it for a career. If I do land this dream job then my work will be very important to me. It is not a game to me, it is very important.
Part of this would be that I would always be extremely formal during my work hours. I will not ask any colleagues about things like how their weekend was. I would just really prefer not to talk about personal issues at all.
This may come off as impersonal or rude, but it is actually because I respect the people I work with, that I have the desire to keep working relationships professional in terms of what I consider the word to mean.
Now when the issue of eating together comes up I will find it hard to regularly eat food with people and not build some sort of personal relationship with them. The prospect of this makes me uneasy because I do believe that the more personal a working relationship becomes the harder it becomes to keep things professional according to my definition of the word is.
Should I just get over it or do these concerns of mine have weight? In South Africa just like in most places in the world a job as a Web Developer would give me the financial freedoms I have always dreamt of. I really would not like anything to affect that negatively.