I have now gone through this process ~2.5 times:
- A recruiter from a company contacts me.
- I ask what projects they have that I could work on, and if those projects use the technology stack I'm interested in working with, since that is the deciding factor if I am interested or not. I make it clear that the only reason I am thinking about changing jobs is because I would like to work with a different technology stack.
- They dodge the question but say we can talk about it over lunch.
- I puzzle it into a busy work schedule, make an excuse at work, and take time I don't feel I have to spare in order to meet them for lunch.
- Several times at lunch, I repeat the question. They give me long-winded responses to my question but don't answer it. I listen politely as they talk a lot about how great the company is, telling me things I don't care about. I reiterate that the only reason I'm considering changing jobs is to work with a different tech stack. At the end of the meeting, they say they would like to schedule for me to meet someone else who they claim will answer my question.
- I end up telling them I would like to stay with my present employer.
I feel that I am already firmly communicating that I want an answer to this question if I am going to take my time going through their recruiting process. If I make a threat that I won't continue talking to them until they answer my question, I'm worried that I'm being rude.
Since I'm a programmer and negotiating is not in my skillset, I would very much appreciate a script for how to word this.