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- Dealing with rude senior colleagues 6 answers
I am working with a senior in my team. Recently, during a meeting, I was asking her a question that I doubt the methodology she proposed is necessary, and would like to make some suggestions. My question was expressed in a calm tone: "I am wondering if XXX is necessary. Maybe we can ... (I put ellipsis here since my part is over from this point on)".
From the first words came back from her, things are going south. She raised her voice immediately, and was talking like she wants to quarrel rather than to discuss. Her attitude was so rude and ferocious, even I smiled to her and suggested we can find another time to discuss this, she just kept talking in high key and blames me.
She even let me to do this job alone, according to my own idea (which I was not be able to talk about so far). This sounds like she's okay with my proposal, but you can imagine how ugly it looked like under that situation. And all these happened in front of my and her leaders and other colleagues. At last, my boss had to smooth things over and stopped her.
I would call this is workplace violence. I feel so offended though she didn't use any bad language. I also feel I was not respected. Person usually don't talk to others who he/she respect like that. This "communication" made me feel that a junior like me has no rights to question her. Even I never think of challenging her. All a junior could do is "Shut up and do your work as told!"
I mean nothing personal to her. She is a proud person, thus not very easy to go along with. I sent her gift after new year to ease the relationship. Seems it was received as a sign of weakness.
There are at least three projects that I have to work with her. Now, how can I deal with her in the future?