We interviewed a candidate to be a nanny. We are a household employer. This nanny made a great impression in the first interview. We had a second interview, and, after discussion on schedule, compensation, and benefits, asked if she wanted to accept the role. The answer wasn't exactly clear, which was a challenge seeing as her English is not native. In other words she said, "Yeah that sounds good." I was surprised when she followed up with more questions about the schedule later, which was different than we discussed, and a transportation benefit. We had a third call to iron out the details, she said the conditions sound good. I ventured the question, "Are you interviewing with other families?" She said, "Honestly yes." I said, "We'll give you a week to make a final decision, it's important to make a decision you're happy with."
What I didn't mention is that we're also still interviewing other nannies, since while I thought we had a yes before, it's now not clear I do.
I think I would personally feel guilty if, in the process, we find someone motivated and accepted their help, and our aforementioned candidate was left without an option. Her personal situation shows she needs the work, and I'm empathetic to that. I'm confident she can find another nanny position if she wants it. I'm a little disappointed by the poor communication coming out at this point in the process.
My question is: have I done due diligence in letting her know our expectations and timelines? If I accepted another nanny's help, would I have done wrong by our current candidate?