I started a new job a few months ago, 3 months after I had my first baby. My new team generously waited for me to finish maternity leave before my start date (as I had interviewed with them when I was starting my 9th month).
Due to policies in the state where we live, I'm eligible for 8 weeks paid family leave anytime within the first year of the baby's birth day. My spouse & I have been dreaming for a long time about going on a vacation abroad, but I didn't have enough days off from work (and it wasn't worth going for a short time). But now that I have this family leave time, we stole a glance at tickets & found good prices, so on a whim we booked it for 4 weeks towards the end of the year. [EDIT: To be clear, we will be taking the baby with us!] I haven't discussed it with my manager yet b/c it would be awkward asking for a long vacation when I'm still so new to the team. I planned to ask when it gets closer. It would be tricky for him to turn the request down b/c I'm officially eligible for this time off from the state. In a worst case scenario where my manager would be very upset or the timing wouldn't work, we agreed we'd move the tickets to a different time. I also plan to forfeit the remaining 4 weeks of family leave because I didn't want it to look bad to take off so much within my first year on a job.
However... we just discovered that I'm unexpectedly pregnant again. (Yes, these things happen, and no, it's not always people's fault). Which means I'll need to take maternity leave again next year, about 11 months after starting this job.
I'm not so concerned about the maternity leave, but I am concerned about how it would look to take off both 4 weeks vacation AND maternity leave within my first year. I don't want my new manager to think that I'm not committed to my job. However, with a 2nd baby on the way, this specific vacation is a "now or never", since we can't do that type of trip with 2 babies in tow.
Here's what I see as my options (or open to hearing more options if I missed something!).
Ask for the 4 weeks vacation without mentioning the pregnancy. Later on, when I hit 5-6 months, tell my manager about the pregnancy and that I'll need to take maternity leave. It'll be awkward because 5-6 months lands out right around the time that I'll be out on vacation, but hopefully they'd see it as 2 unrelated requests.
When I ask for the 4 weeks vacation, tell my manager about the pregnancy, even though it'll still be very early on to share that news. Ask the manager if it's okay to do the vacation even though I'll need maternity next year. Best option for transparency but also the riskiest, since I don't want him to say I can't take vacation.
Which is the best way to deal with it? Are there any other options that I haven't thought of?