1st occasion: I have been at my new Indiana company working in the HR department for close to 3 months now. My manager resigned and now new management (she is the VP of Human Resources) comes in. Her 2nd day in office we have our one on one meeting. I give her a run down of my job duties and current projects. As we were wrapping up the meeting she ask I close the office door and was instructed to zhuzh up my appearance. I work in a corporate atmosphere. This day in particular I was wearing gray slacks, a black top, and a black cardigan that I switched for out for our department pull over.
I then explained to her that I had commuted via the bus and my coworker pointed out a huge stain on my rear end. I had sat in something so I used my department pullover to hide the stain on my slacks. She responded ok yes, just zhuzh it up a bit.
2nd occasion: Next was the department meeting where we went over several topics. The topic of appearance came up. We must present ourselves in a professional manner. Then she mentioned a little lip gloss goes a long way ladies. This was odd to hear during a department meeting. What does lip gloss have to do with our ability to accomplish our work? This was now the 2nd time I had felt uncomfortable with the remark about appearances. I am not one to wear make up often; I don't even own lip gloss!
3rd occasion: I was out sick Thursday and Friday. Tuesday I was called into the my managers office due to a mistake I made. I acknowledge my error explained my steps to fix my error. My manager says we should all appear like this (referring to her self) well put together. We are the face of the department. I was wearing a black knee length skirt, black top, maroon cardigan and flats. I actually curled my hair that day! But she again references appearance.
I have never been self conscious but now I don't want to go back in to my office in fear of what she will say next or find wrong.
Am I over reacting? Should I report the occurrence?