I work in the United States. To give some background, I worked for six months reporting to a manager who never micromanaged and never requested monthly one on one meetings with me. I just did the work and this seemed to be ok.
After six months, this manager quit and as soon as she left, I was called into a meeting and told who I would now be reporting to. This new manager told me about the importance of monthly one-on-one meetings and how it helps to have a documented progression of how I am working when it comes to annual performance reviews. This made sense to me so I began scheduling monthly one-on-one meetings with her.
I work at a credit union in loan servicing and I find my new manager to be very capable, smart, and able to advise and instruct her reports. She is nice enough. But there's a part of me that holds back with her and I do not let her know how I am truly feeling. There's something about abruptly transitioning from one manager to another that makes me keep my guard up and not want to truly reveal myself and how I feel.
We have had three of these one-on-one meetings so far and I find that I have to rack my brain to think of things to talk about. I am just used to doing my job, asking for help if needed, and that's it. I am self-reliant and am not falling down that I need a lot of support.
And to make matters worse, it feels like I have to carry the meeting. When the meeting starts, she always asks what do I want to talk about as though I need her so badly to unpack all that has happened the last month. I've been sticking with the meetings because I was told it's good to have these monthly meetings so you're not blank when it comes to the annual review.
But I can really do without the meetings. I see her practically every day, so she's there if anything comes up. Why do I need an additional concentrated meeting with her?
I have asked her if I am meeting expectations. She says yes. I have asked if there is anything else I should be doing? She has given me projects. I feel like she's not guiding me and I have to pull information out of her and give her direction on me. It just feels like I have to sit with someone and spill my guts and I don't feel comfortable.
I am wondering if I should continue with these one-on-one meetings or am I looking at this wrong and how things are is how it's supposed to be. Should I discuss how I am feeling with my manager or just continue as I have been doing and feeling uneasy?