I have hired people. I am not an HR person, I am the one who would be your manager if I hired you. I know other hirers who feel the same way as I do which is this: please stop emailing every few days to tell us you still want the job and ask if we have decided. Please.
There is just no universe in which I have decided who to hire, I have all my ducks in a row to make them an offer, but I can't be bothered to tell them. There is also no universe in which I was going to spend today catching up on some of the work I set aside while interviewing, but then an email asking if I had decided yet made me change my plan for the day and go back to deciding who to hire. This just isn't how most hirers work.
What there is, is some or all of this:
- I can't put any time into the hiring thing today. I have to catch up on other stuff (this may go on for a few days depending on the size of the company and the reason they are hiring, it might happen that all the interviewing and deciding is happening in a lull, but that's the rare exception.)
- What little time I have for the hiring thing today is going to interviews, or to meeting with my colleagues to talk about who we might hire. We haven't decided because deciding takes time and work.
- I am waiting on something related to the hiring process (reference checking, an answer about visas or work permits for my top choice, a budget bump for my top choice, whatever) and nothing can move forward until I get that.
- I have made someone an offer and am waiting to see if they accept it.
I am not going to tell my second choice that they are my second choice: if the top choice can't or won't accept the offer, or it turns out I can't make that offer, then I will be offering to the second choice (typically quite happily). So if I am blocked on any of these things, there's nothing I can tell you and nothing you can do to unblock me either.
Well, that's not true. If you phone me, after you already emailed me, and especially if you phone me twice, I'm not going to hire you. You are showing that your nervousness and desire to know if you're getting the job or not is more important than my time and the other things I need to do today. You're kind of low-key accusing me also of lying: "I know you said you'd get back to me when there was an update but I'm sure there must have been an update by now so I'm calling you, because I can't wait until whatever time you might choose to contact me." There may be firms that can hire people who will do that, but I can't. I know being patient is hard. But demonstrating your impatience with multiple emails a week or with multiple voice calls is a way to show me what you would be like to work with, and for me it is not a good preview of the experience.
I know, other people said you should call and you should show you're keen and you should remind them how great you are and all that. But I swear, I have never -- and no-one I chat to has ever -- been ready to make someone an offer but then said "well, I dunno, maybe not, I mean most people send 3 emails by now and call twice, this candidate is patiently waiting for our decision, maybe they don't want the job as much as some others?" Never.