I am a TeamLeader/Manager, the company is medium, I manage about 12 people along with coding my own stuff.
This morning subordinate X, walked into the middle of our offices (Open space) and asked for everybody's attention, proceeded to talked for 30 minutes about how he's never felt right in his body, and how change is always good.
After which everyone stayed silent due to the sheer amount of unprofessional stuff he said, (Inappropriate sexual details) and most were really not interested in his personal life.
Then he proceeds to lecture everyone on how bigoted they are and how trans-hostile the environment was due to not a single person cheering him on. I called him to talk to, and he insisted no one was supporting his choice and was extremely upset, so much so I had to send him home for the rest of the day. Other managers that work closely with me talked to me about keeping him on a "leash" to prevent future forced reunions.
My higher ups want me to consider whether this was enough to fire him or not, since he created the problem, and is the problem, and the solution would be to get rid of him. If I don't fire and this happens again, my neck is on the line (but I badly want to keep him).
Alternatively, I need to guarantee that anything related to this incident, or the hormone treatment and possible surgeries would be on his own time (he wouldn't be paid while home recovering, or during hours of treatment) and that he was not to mention it ever again.
He also demanded a gender-neutral bathroom, my country has no rule to force 3 bathrooms, and It isn't strong enough to make him quit on his own. My country has a policy that after 3 consecutive weeks of failure to show up (with or without justification), the company can lay you off without even telling you about it.
So my question is, how can I talk to him in order to make sure he keeps his private life private and not talk about it while at work, and to have all the medical procedures he wants as long as it doesn't affect work or his work hours/ability to output code? This has been a massive lost of morale due to ongoing Chit-Chat of the personal life he dumped on us.
Edit for clarification
In Portugal any time that you are out of the company you are not paid, even regular surgery, so the part where everything he does is on his time is completely normal here. Be it Gender Affirmation or a removing a kidney stone. You are paid by the government after 3 days of being unable to work. It's the norm here, we are a socialist country.
Since I already have a bias, I need other people's insight on how to handle it as not to be insensitive. I DO NOT mix my personal opinions and work, nor do I look to enforce my personal opinions on this person.
The revelation and lecture were all in the period of 1 Hour, he explained they were having surgery, no one reacted, we got lectured.
I also know the way he acted is not in any way shape or form a reflection of his community, and it's an exception.
Update for the interested X is now officially He, he has been reprimanded severely and will have to walk on eggshells for some time (with the big guys not me), I ended up explaining the whole ordeal, he explained that the internet made it look like everyone would cheer and be super interested (his words not mine) and that he would be sure to leave his personal life at home from now on. I got a slap on the wrist, since the Big Man understood that I was too flabbergasted to do anything. He ended up dropping the whole gender-neutral bathroom thing, and will be using the man's bathroom as soon as he has male genitalia. Big Man even agreed in private conversation not to fire him while he was recovering from surgery.
We got the Good Ending, thanks everyone for your help