I am happy at my current job, but I am considering moving to a new job (at a more risky startup). The interviews have all gone well, but I'm not sure about long hours and low pay. I have, however, asked a bunch of former colleagues to give me a reference, and they have all graciously given me glowing reviews. Now, I feel conflicted about turning down the job (though I haven't made up my mind either way).
Is it rude to my former colleagues to turn down a job that they tried to help me get?
Of course, I think highly of all of these colleagues (which is why I chose them as references) and I would like to remain on good terms with them, in case I need a reference in the future, or if they need mine, or if we end up working together again down the road.