We just had our company lunch and we bought some donuts packed into small little boxes from our excess team fund. As most of us were too full, they told me to bring some of it back or they will go bad. There were about a dozen boxes so I took one. Some of my friends took some and it was quickly given out to everyone who wants to take them back. One of our admins felt that the donuts should have been distributed more evenly. She made quite a scene around the office demanding we return the donuts and would not let the matter go even after my trying to ignore the problem for a few hours.
She waited for me as she wanted me to return some donuts and followed me all the way to my meeting. So I tried explaining we shouldn't be rigid and dictate what anyone should do in the office but she kept saying she was right and she was being fair and everyone should stick to her rules. I lost my temper when she refused to listen to my explanation so I answered back and you could say we had an argument. Luckily there wasn't anyone in the room yet.
After my meeting I am surprised to find a sarcastic email from her. A few names was dragged into the email loop as well as I may have brought it up during the argument.
I have to apologize to those people who was in the email loop in the morning as they did nothing wrong except took some extra donuts home. I told my manager as soon as I could to explain the situation. Luckily, she was kind enough to understand the situation and told me not to worry.
I am relatively new compared to her and some expenses claims in the office is handled by her. I fear that she would make things difficult for me when I need to make any expense claim or she would just use "Company Policies" to scrutinize and threaten me every time I am over or bordering the line. Other people I work with have claimed she has done this before. I just do not want this to erupt into an office war between her.
I fear that she is going to escalate this issue potentially dragging higher management and/or HR into this which could be bad for me. How can I defuse this situation before that happens?