I work for a very fast paced organization and I love what I do, but it's gotten to the point that my supervisor who used to be the only reasonable and true leader, no longer is. Upper management has this belief of strict line of commands, strict expectations and etc. but he was always the one that was easy going and cared about his employees and as a result we're the top performing area in the company.
Within the past couple of months my manager has become like upper management and all the other middle managers: Uncaring, indifferent, strict, serious, demanding etc. I'm assuming he's been talked to about his management style or there has just been a change in the company as to what is proper protocols are. I'm not sure.
As a result there are now personality conflicts between us and we no longer discuss progress. He never said we were going to stop meeting he just cut off communication. I have always thrived better in relaxed and team based environments and things are different he comes across as intimidating, uncaring, and unwilling listen to your concerns. It's scary and apparently it has been discussed that I'm not performing well anymore (although he's loved how I work up until this change). Also the way he conveyed it to me was harsh in itself and not constructive.
This change in attitude has me confused as to why that is and now I've realized that my being confused and surprised has been interpreted as being a complainer and a whiner when we had a great working dynamic up until few months ago. The other problem is I have requested numerous times that I would like more direction and interest from him as to my projects not only to build rapport but also I'd like his feedback occasionally via regular meetings, lunch meetings, quick news flash chats.
All it did was make me seen more like a whiner because he was argumentative with all my requests. Then I come to find out that he has scheduled meetings with staff members in other departments and lunch meetings as well.
I'm confused. Everything I've asked for in terms of needing it to do a better job he has thought it was of a whiny nature even though I didn't complain, I was calm and direct about what i was requesting and why it was important yet it got get denied in a harsh way and then see my manager provide that opportunity to people who do not even work in our area.
P.S. I of course did not bring up the comparison because that would have made it worse.
How can I better understand what my boss wants if he thinks I'm whining all the time especially when this change in his attitude seems to come out of nowhere?
What would be the reason why he would make managerial effort with people who do not work for him but refuses to handle the same request he gets from the people that work for him?