I have a major personality clash with one of my colleagues. We both get along pretty well with the rest of the team, but we both have strong opinions and disagree frequently. The problem has been getting worse since he joined the team a year ago. We now have full-on arguments on a weekly basis, and I am not able to participate in any discussion with him as he continually talks over me.
I know I am quite "outspoken" as our boss puts it. I have tried to tone down how I present my opinions and to give this guy more opportunity to say his piece, but this has not changed his behaviour. I have also attempted to talk with him about it, but he does not seem to think that it is a problem. Our boss is somewhat aware of the issue but has a lot of other responsibilities and generally expects us to sort out our own problems.
I have concluded that I am no longer able to work with my colleague, as I am not comfortable interacting with him (or even interacting with other team members in his presence), we are disrupting the rest of the team, and the situation is beginning to affect my mental health.
I am brainstorming the options that I have available to address the problem. I've come up with a few ideas:
- Ask for a transfer to another team
- Ask for a reallocation of duties so that I don't have to interact with this colleague as much
Are there any other solutions to resolve the situation that I could consider?
EDIT: To clarify, I am looking for the options that I should consider after all efforts to resolve the issue directly with my colleague have failed. I realise that it takes two to tango and I assume that since he gets along well enough with everyone else that there must be some fault on my side, but at this point I have been trying harder to get along with him for several months and the situation is escalating so I have decided that some other action is necessary.