I went on maternity leave for 3 months with my first baby. I know I'm entitled to a year off but at only 50% of your pay with no top-ups and being the breadwinner makes that an impossible dream. I came back exactly when I said I would and while they were glad I came back (lightened their workload) I had to deal with all kinds of assumptions and stereotypes.
They asked nosy questions about my childcare options (assumed the childcare was 100% on me and not on my husband too) and thought I should be at home with the baby instead of working. While I'd love to stay home with the baby, I make more money than my husband does right now so I need to work to pay bills! They also made massive assumptions such as: my husband works a 9-5 same as me(there are other jobs in the world), we own a house (nope -renters), my husband wouldn't want to look after baby (he loves being home with her), we own a car (nope), we've been married and settled for years (nope just 2), and they talk to me like I'm 45 or something (I'm 26!). The act a little awkward around me and I've been branded MOMMY. Some are even nervous. I find this all very annoying.
They followed the laws surrounding maternity leave and didn't do anything illegal so I can't do anything. How can I put an end to the awkward and invasive questions/comments?