I recently interviewed for a manager position at a software company. One of the interviewers asked if I was married, and he immediately added, jovially, "I really shouldn't be asking that."
I am 40 and not married. I responded truthfully and said I am not married. The following week, I was told I did not get the management job. Of course, the reason will never be revealed to me.
Is it legal for interviewers to ask if I'm married?
Should I preemptively do something to avoid this question, like wear a wedding band? How much are those, anyways? Or should I say something like "Great weather, my wife and kids really loved going to Yosemite last week"; I figure that if it's not a direct reply to a question, I'm not lying, just thinking out loud.