I recently got hired in a company as an information security specialist who should find vulnerabilities and send recommendations to the IT team so they can fix it.
X is a member of the IT Team and he is the only responsible for Networking which makes him my only interface to do changes in the network so he is the only one who can give network architectures and other stuff, But X is an arrogant person who wants to always feel superior because of his experience in the enterprise and he doesn't want to accept recommendations from anyone, especially from the young fresh recruit.
- although i talk to him nicely , he always reject me and says that i don't know nothing
- He once told me after a meeting "you should understand what i am saying not me understanding what you say"
- when i sent my first mail to get access to a platform he initiated a stupid discussion with me to get on my nerves
my superior (who is a nice woman) says that he is nice guy but he always do this and we should accept him as he is and talk to him carefully. I am capable of attacking him when he does this but as a new recruit i don't want to make trouble.
I want to find a solution with a minimum damage.I think that either i go hard on him when he does this or i be nice to him till i get the information that i want. what is the best solution ?
i think that everybody here thinks that i am a young kid that doesn't know a thing about professionalism. I have one year of work experience and i know a lot about co-workers relations. As i said this man doesn't only do this to me but to my boss (the information security officer) too and to all other workers who want need something from him so don't try to put the blame on me, i am the one who need help here not him !