My current position
I have a job that I really like, and suits me quite well. It is in the software industry and I am writing code for websites. What makes it great I suppose is also my working environment. My boss lets me drive my code and pretty much stays out of my way, so I am "empowered" to make whatever changes I see fit, and he trusts my judgement and overall we have a good working relationship. Overall this position is good.
The pay is somewhere between $75-78K with 2 weeks paid time off, 10 holidays and about 4 unpaid time days off.
The trigger towards PTO/salary
Now, all would be fine, but my husband keeps bugging me to ask my work for more days off and work has been pushing back, keeping time off as-is. Ideally 1 more week paid time off will be good. And also the salary is on the lower end for I could be worth. Sure, more days off and higher salary will be nice. I also have already rocked the boat with time off before and company gave me some free time off that did not go on the books since they got some publicity in return. I did not bug them about salary much as my stance has been "you don't have to raise my salary as long as I get more days off". But neither salary nor days off were raised officially other than policy-induced yearly raise.
So being lead by my husband, I started to talk to some recruiters. I got me an interview this coming week where (should everything go right) the offer will be 3 weeks PTO, several personal days. There are 7 holidays. Basically about the same time off, just different times and called different names. But higher salary, over $10K higher.
My husband's idea is to use the offer as an ammunition to get more days off. Or maybe higher salary, or both. And also to give my boss more ammunition for use to help him get me a raise/promotion/whatever the company decides to give or not give.
How do I best handle this? Considering the goals that my husband is pushing towards more time off to travel and I can certainly use more time off myself. And more money will also be nice. To jump start .. here is what I am thinking, where maybe I can do something like this...(?). ..
- March to my boss with offer in hand and say, "you know, I really like working here, and you know that, but my husband is retired and he wants to travel more and my mom who lives in another state also requests more of my time, and I would like to see what you (aka company) can do for me. Then place printed offer on the table. I know that you (company) cannot do this in vacuum, so I want to use this this opportunity (the offer) to show that I am worth more than my current compensation is at this company. Can you consider my message and let me know if you can do anything for me in regards to getting more time off. (Or salary, or both)?
My boss doesn't know I have been looking or that I have an interview so me with an offer will probably be at least a little bit unexpected. But after all, he is in management so I don't think it will come as a big shock, but still he is a person and not a robot, and he likes me, so I imagine there will be a moment where he'll be surprised. But maybe he will be excited, since the offer will indeed give him more power with HR, to negotiate more perks, benefits, or salary for me, as he has been trying to do that, but in vaccuum.
I don't want to screw this up so I am wondering how to approach this with least damage for my work-relationships, and with the most win for my personal life?