First, I must add here that I have been working as a software engineer for six years now and haven't experienced anything like this ever before. I applied for a senior software engineering job at a very large (and extremely popular) firm. They liked my application and called me in for an actual interview at their office.
The interviewer, when he first saw me, greeted me very pleasantly and guided me to the room in which the interview was conducted. When the interview began, he asked very common questions in an interview like, "What's your experience?" and whatnot, among many other questions. For the first ten minutes, the interview was going smoothly and I was answering all of his questions nicely.
Then, he asked an extremely strange question "Don't you wear glasses?" I do wear glasses, but I wasn't wearing them over to the interview. I had forgotten them in my apartment while I was leaving quickly for the interview in the morning.
To his question, I replied, "Well yes, how do you know?", and he smiled and said "You clearly were introduced to a computer at a very tender age and afterwards, you've been using computers very rigorously on a daily basis. It is quite obvious to then deduce that your sight must have been weakened."
Like anybody else, I was baffled by this strange line of sayings and thought to myself that he was new in this whole business. I got very nervous by him and anybody would have gotten so really. He had the gaze of an owl and would stare into your eyes while you talk, in a way that would make anybody feel uncomfortable.
Ofcourse, minor sweating began and I stuttered to say, "Well good.", I couldn't think of anything else.
After that, he was very quick to say "Well, the interview for you so far has been quite pleasant it seems and you were enjoying your time...atleast in the first half (he laughed and grinned when he said this, and it just made me angry and I felt as if he was making fun of me). But you do suffer from Aspergers, and I am sure you realize that you'll have to communicate and above all; guide a team of people in a professional and a motivational manner. I don't think you'll be able to do that, but I am still uncertain. In your application, you mentioned that you're very experienced and skilled in XY, and it is quite the coincidence that we've been working on a new project lately but it requires somebody with a thorough knowledge of XY to solve some issues we're facing in it. That's why we even put this job out in the first place, so I'll bring over the entire team in the next interview that you would be working with if you get hired, for you to give them a lecture on XY. I'll see how you do, and if you do well, then there are happy days for you to start dreaming about."
The truth is that I do have Asperger Syndrome, but I do not think it has affected me in any way in my career. I don't know how he figured that out, but I replied "OK sure." And he smiled as the interview ended.
NOW, the problem is that I am too nervous to do that. The interviewer is too personal with me and thinks of me as his best friend or something. I can't do anything infront of him now, and I want to ask the manager (if I get a chance to be introduced to him) to give me another interview with somebody else but that will never happen and is absurd.
I really want this job and I am sure any programmer in my place would too. But the interviewer is too extreme to deal with. Should I just tell him that he has made me nervous and I can't do what he's asking me to do BUT that I'll still be very confident with the team if I get hired? or something else? Either way, I am just really confused.