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I am moving out of state, and I would like a letter of reference from my employer. Is that putting her on the spot if she writes me that reference knowing I have it in hand? What is the proper way to go about this?

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    Letter of reference for what? – Jonathan Hult Nov 22 '15 at 14:44
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    Are you going somewhere that doesn't have long distance phone service or internet? Because most companies use exactly the same means to contact out-of-state previous employers as they use to contact in-state ones – DJClayworth Nov 22 '15 at 19:23

Should I ask for a letter of reference to take with me?

No. Not in most fields, in most locales.

Letters of reference have almost no value with the hiring managers I know, including me. It's just a piece of paper. Far better is to secure someone as a reference who can be called when needed, and who will say good things about you.

If you have people your work with or work for who like you and would be good references, casually ask them if they would be okay being a reference. Get their contact information for future use.

Then, when you have gotten to the point in a job search where you need a reference, contact them again. Give them the specifics of the situation - the job, the company, the name of the person who would be checking the references, etc. And thank them for their help.


Is that putting her on the spot if she writes me that reference knowing I have it in hand?

Yes, it implies that she is happy to be contacted regarding your employment with her. Most employers will give a reference on that understanding.

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