My department has 8 people + 1 boss. No one likes the boss. They either try not to care or they heavily dislike her. Most fail even trying to not care. Apparently there have been many episodes in the past. I'm fairly new (4 months) and am starting to see a pattern:
- She doesn't trust us (controlling behaviour)
- She can be very dominating
- She can yell and psych people out during a confrontation
- She is submissive towards other bosses, other bosses at her level dominate her. Our department suffers from this. We recently lost our coffee space:(
- Her loyalty goes upwards, not downwards
- She takes criticism personally and immediately defends herself if people disagree with her
- She doesn't listen and has trouble respecting other people's opinion
This was highlighted today when I got pulled out of office only to get yelled at for 30 minutes because I sent an email to everyone in the group that had a joke in it. Everyone laughed, except her -- she felt it was way too offensive (it had a sexist joke, but our group jokes around A LOT).
She didn't yell but raised her voice every time I spoke and didn't seem to have any desire to learn my side of the story. I was shocked by this because she seems to laugh whenever someone jokes around like this. Maybe she just wanted to test the waters on me a bit? My coworkers were shocked from what they saw.
Do I just wait until I've reached a boiling point with these things and then confront her about it? Should she be confronted, and how? All the other coworkers have tried at some point, but "lost the battle" so to speak. She psychs them out, she never gives up.
Do I try politics game above her level? e.g. talk to her boss and come out in a way where her boss covers my back, and I hers?
Do I try not to care? It's difficult and frustrating, but possible.