I'm from india and my workplace consists of people across india, meaning that people of different mother languages come to work in the same workplace.
Recently when I and my team mates were travelling on a car to a party outside for a team building activity, I inadvertently told the others that "don't play hindi songs since none of us can understand them" (None of the guys on the car has hindi as their mother language fyi). I would not have told the same if there was a guy in the car who can understand that language.
After a week, one of guys told in front of a small group that "This guy hates hindi" as if it was a joke. This really pissed me off. The people from other team might misinterpret that I am language-biased. They might even think that I will hate (not help) anyone who do not speak my own language.
I explained to him immediately harshly that I dont listen to chinese,japanese songs either and it doesnot mean that I hate them all. So stop all this non sense. And, he belives that it was just a joke.
The irritating thing is that nobody from the team told him that what he said about me is not fair.
I don't know how to handle this. I learned that I should keep my mouth shut whenever this guy is around.
Another incident: We all have a personal whatsapp group and we chat nasty things. This same guy told something that we discussed among the group to someone who is not part of the group, in front of me as if it was a joke. Again, that is something that belittles me.
I'm not worried about this guy but really worried about the team members who are in line with him, believing that all his non sense talks are just jokes.
Am i overreacting?