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I have several hooks in the water right now in terms of a new job.
Some of these opportunities pay extremely well but require relocation, which I am loathe to do because I don't want to uproot my kids. Some others pay a bit less, but don't require relocation.
My preference is the lower-paying "non-relocation" jobs that allow me to stay put, but these employers are moving rather slowly through the hiring process. I believe that I am much closer to getting an offer for one of the higher-paying "relocation" jobs.
Trying to think of if, when and how I should leverage this imminent "relocation" offer to spur the employers with the "non-relocation" jobs into moving forward. I don't want to wait until I have an offer in hand, because "relocation" company will probably want an answer within a matter of 24 hours. I won't have time to get the ball rolling again with the "non-relocation" employers and get a competing offer from them in time.
Basically, I want to politely/deferentially tell "non-relocation" employer "Look, I really want to join your team and I think I'd do a fantastic job, and I don't want to rush you or ask you to compromise your hiring process, but I have an offer that will be heading my way very soon, and I need to know where I stand with you all so I can make an informed decision about how to proceed."
Maybe I just say exactly that? But then I worry I'll just push them into disengaging instead of moving the ball forward.
Would be grateful for thoughts and insight on how one might play this, or how it's been played successfully in the past.