About an year-year and a half ago I was pretty close with a friend of mine, but about 7-8 months later we started drifting apart and seeing each other very rarely (once a month or so, on occasions where our mutual friends are present, I'm generally avoiding him).
He has been unemployed for a while (on his own wish - he left his job without finding a new one in order to take sabbatical) and 6-7 months ago, he asked me if I can refer him for a position in my company. Since we were getting along pretty well back then I told him that it is ok, and that he should mention that I referred him when applying. However, he did not apply then, but applied a few days ago and did mention that I am referring him (without asking me again if he could).
Now my boss wants to talk with me in order to share my impressions of the guy and I don't know what to do. I don't really want to work with him (and I'm working in a small-to-medium-sized company so we will probably see each other pretty often), but I'm not sure what my best course of action will be. The way I see it I have the following options:
- tell my boss that I have good impressions of the guy (which is partially true, I did have good impressions at some point, but that's no longer the case). Help him get hired, earn a referral bonus and (possibly) some gratitude from him.
- tell my boss that I have not enough personal impressions and can't really refer the guy and that I only told him that I will refer him because I didn't want to be rude (the first part is not true - I have mostly negative impressions, the second part is 100% truth, though). In this case it is pretty probable that they still hire him (he is an average fit for the job and they need new people right now), but I won't get a referral bonus and he may get to know that I didn't refer him once he gets hired and start sabotaging me on my job (I have told him in the past that I don't really like my job and some work-related details)
- tell my boss that I have negative impressions and blackball him - I think this will make me feel really bad and I don't feel like doing it.
I think I'm about to go with option 2, but I'm not really sure that this will be best. Maybe if I help him get hired, we can start getting along to some extent and earn some new support at my workplace which can be for the better. It is also probable that he returns favor when I'm in need. What would you suggest?