I am engaged, but we are not planning to get married for at least a couple years, for our own financial reasons which I don't feel like explaining. I work in a fairly small and close workplace where people are friendly, and the word Fiancee inevitably elicits the question, "When are you getting married?"
I don't want to explain the financial reasons, and I have never been good at evading a direct question. So does anyone have a reasonable way of getting out of answering what seems like a perfectly reasonable question? I have tried things like, "not right away", or, "we are planning it now". But people who haven't gotten an answer just ask again periodically.
My Supervisor asked and I did not feel like I could evade, so I explained it, and she said that she knew other people in the same situation. But I don't feel like telling everyone a personal answer, and I wish for this question to stop being asked. Is there any way or do I just go on feeling evasive and shameful whenever it comes up? Thank you.
Please Note: I do not feel that this is a duplicate of other questions because in this case it is almost a knee-jerk response for people to ask me this particular question, so I don't feel it is nosy or unprofessional, I just don't want to have it come up.
Is there a simple and polite response, like: "I would rather not explain why it has to be delayed, because I would rather be married now."?
Based on a late answer, I realized that I had not considered that anyone would really want to know, or be likely to want to attend, buy gifts or whatever. I simply don't get involved with people at work except for a face to face, in the moment conversation. I don't much do that with anyone else in my life either. It is now or never, and that almost always means that I have no chosen interactions with people at all. Their perspective of being connected to me is mystifying. I intend to see my Fiancee again. Everyone else might as well have "rolled underneath the sofa". When they are in front of me, their are my whole world though. I heard a Radio Preacher say, "To Jesus, Ministry was the person standing in front of him at the time." That is how I operate, too.