I started working at a thrift store and my first week the owner of the store asked me out. everyone seemed to hang out there so I said it would be okay if he met me and my sister out for drinks but I realized right away that I didn't want to go out with him in a social setting like that although I enjoyed talking to him at work. over time he grew very fond of me and kept asking me out I agreed to go out on to dinner with him but after that I ended up blowing him off which caused a lot of resentment in the workplace. I even had to find a new job the treantment was too unfair but then i was promoted to manager and he is asking to hang out again. I only have one day off a week and I really don't want to spend it with him, so I don't know how to go about keeping the working friendship without having to make an excuse for why I can't hang out every weekend... is my job secure if I am honest and say no thank you I'm busy
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If I understand correctly, you were unhappy and found a new job but received an offer of a promotion and decided to stay. The store owner is behaving unprofessionally and by leading you to believe that dating him is in any way related to how you are treated as an employee is likely sexual harassment. Unfortunately the consequences of sexual harassment vary a lot by country so without know where you are from it's difficult to go into any more depth regarding that. Stick to your guns and be honest "I'm not really interested in hanging outside of work."