Hi I'm Karen and I am obsessing over whether I should ask for a vacation or not from my boss. She and I had a quarrel a few days ago because I expressed grief when she was trying to much to micromanage me and things were said, but later we made up by hugging it out. Things are still a little cold since then and I need to ask for a time off in December. In december, we get a week off during Christmas, plus, I will be taking the 2 weeks from this year and I am hoping that I can also take a week from next year. So a total of 4 weeks vacation. This is to go see my sister who I haven't seen in over 4 years who lives abroad.
Anyways, the point is, because of the souring of our relationship, I feel whatever I might ask for, she will always find a way to negate or say no (which she has been doing in the last few days).
So my question is how do you ask for a 4 week vacation from a boss who doesn't like you? Is there ways I can soften her up or persuade her?
Maybe it is also worth noting that we have a big project we are working on right now, which would be pretty much complete by the time of my vacation, just the last streak.