So here's the thing. I work in Team A and there's a new team member (X) in Team B. Since A-B teams work together this means that I have to work along with X.
Now X is a very "competitive" person. And he's been misbehaving with me.
- He was a friend of mine before he joined Team B.
- Before joining he asked me for a detailed Knowledge-Transfer on the product. He kept on pleading so I gave him a KT even though I was under intense work pressure. I wasn't even obligated to teach him but only did so on grounds of friendship.
- It was the last milestone for us so things where very hectic for me. In spite of it I gave him a 1 1/2 hour KT.
- Now after joining the team X told the boss that he won't trouble me for a KT and instead he will learn things on his own. I felt that it was unethical of him to not give me any credit for the KT which I had given but I let it pass since I wasn't present when this discussion happened.
The recent event: I was sitting at my workspace when X comes up and asks me a query about something. I look into it and casually ask him "Hey, didn't I give you a KT on this?" Meanwhile I open the product in order to reach the location so that I can explain it to him, if required. And X explodes at me saying "what KT?? What have you taught me?"
It felt rude because my colleagues and juniors were nearby. So I reminded him of the past two KTs that I had given and he said "What did you teach? Just half-an-hour session you took. What did you teach?"
Qs: What is the correct way to deal with this kind of behavior? I feel that:
- It's rude because of the high tone.
- It feels insulting to me because he's doing it in front of my colleagues and juniors
- It feels inhuman. I did give him a KT (it's mentioned in my personal task list history) and not only is he denying it, he's passive aggressive.
What I've already done:
Expressed surprise and reminded him about it. But he's not admitting it.
I also told him that I would explain it again if he wants. I don't have a problem with explaining it but was just asking him casually because it came up on my mind.
I did explain the feature to him again anwyay.. AFTER he shouted at me.
Adding a little perspective about X:
After joining Team B, X informed his boss that he's not going to take a KT from me. Instead that he will learn things "on his own". In the meanwhile he keeps pinging me on chat every now and then with questions and I always reply to those too.
X has been whispering to his boss that "none of these people" under him are working. If anyone checks their personal mails or takes a break X complains immediately. A few colleagues nearby have heard his speech on multiple occasions.
has started ordering his colleague rudely even though he's new and the colleague has more experience than him, and they're both the same designation.
Edit: Removed off-topic statements.