I'm in a bizarre situation: My boss is too friendly.
Not to be misunderstood: I like it when people are friendly on the job. It makes life a lot easier. But the problem I have is that because my boss if too friendly with me, it makes it extremely hard for me to tell him his management mistakes, come performance review time. He would ask to feedback on his management style, but it's hard to me to come up with something to say in a manner that does not wreck the relationship that we have.
Ever so often, we would go out for lunch together and talk about private things. Also, we would come to my desk and interrupt my work to talk about private things. I know it sounds bizarre, but I'd actually like him to check in more often on my work than my or his private matters. In fact, we talk more about private matters than work, not to speak about career advancement, which he doesn't take part in at all, I've got to do all that by myself (which I find frustrating as I can't move anywhere without his input or help). Also, his constant interruptions affect my concentration.
My question would be if anyone had some advise on how to tactfully let my boss know that I'd like to close in more on work-related matters rather than private related matters.
I seem to suck at this because I once tried to disengage from his chattiness for a bit, and he didn't seem to take it well, being overly and artificially strict on work after that ("Have you done this yet?" "How is that tracking?"), while as before, he didn't care (my objectives hardly translate into his, so why would he?).