I have written quite a few threads on here.
I am middle management, where I am currently working for a tech start up, and I am in charge of all projects and the product we are building. My boss is extremely demanding and constantly putting a lot of pressure on me to make sure everything is running smoothly. Some of the things that he is doing.
a) If other members of the team are not performing, the blame comes onto me for not managing them properly. Recently for example, the person in charge of QA is not performing, and it turns that my boss is not paying him on time which has caused him to become unsettled. Instead of looking at his faults he is finding flaws in my process.
After I found out, I informed my boss but it comes across as though he thinks there is something wrong with my management style. In addition I am now doing duties beyond my job role, I am a project manager, and I am now finding that I am doing support and maintenance duties to make sure everything is working. i.e. servers are up, handling support queries etc double checking that guys work in addition to my own work.
b) He is expecting me to monitor everything constantly, if at some point I miss something important and he spots this before me, he starts giving me a hard time. Today on my lunch break a client sent an email (to him) reporting a bug, instead of respecting the fact that I was on my lunch break and didn't see the email that was forwarded to me, he just told me that I am not checking my emails regularly enough.
c) He is not respecting my work/life balance, we normally have meetings on Monday morning where I come in an hour earlier than everyone else to discuss the product roadmap. This is unpaid overtime, where I am working because of this 45-46 hours a week. I am contracted at 40 hours a week.
My delivery rate is very good, I always deliver whatever has been asked, however he always ends up nit picking. He focuses on issues such as not working on weekends. For example if he finds data that he finds interesting, there have been occasions where he has asked me about it on Monday morning. After telling him that I didn't check the product to find out this data, he then gets upset that I was not checking the platform.
I am starting to get very unsettled and now thinking about leaving my job, because I can't handle the stress and pressure. I feel that:
the work I do deliver is not valued. I have recently delivered a newer version of the product which has resulted in the product having it's most sales in a single year ever.
I feel that he does not respect my time, he seems to think that I should be working 24/7 because I am the product manager, when I am often already working above my contracted hours - I am also working unpaid overtime.
He is making me liable for other people not doing their job correctly they have been hired for, citing mismanagement when I have highlighted resource problems before things get bad.
We are under staffed, so our roles are overlapping into roles that we are not trained in. For example a server went down in the middle of the night, I told my boss months ago that we should hire a server admin to monitor the server 24/7. He doesn't want to spend the money. When it finally did go down, his attitude was 'why didn't you check if the web site went down? Why did I find out'. It went down at 2am.
My commute is 2 hour and 30 minutes each day, I am dead tired by the end of the day, and he does not seem to respect that I need to switch off. He has got the mentality that because he is constantly working, everyone else in the team should be too.
The whole team is unsettled, everyone is complaining that they are underpaid for the amount of responsibility they have, from the technical team to me. Although I have never raised this as an issue.
I've made a lot of good decisions about how the company is structured which is now paying off. But it seems as though as soon as I make one wrong decision, he gets on my back.
Recently, I was tasked with a project that I could not sign off. Turns out my boss oversold it to the client, without consulting me about the project risks during sales.
I want to tell him that I am at the company to help him grow, but I do not want to treat this job as my whole life. Work/life balance is important to me to prevent get burned out. How do I tell him this gently?