I am working in a Startup Company of 10 members. While working for the last 2 years, I observed that my manager and some of teammates are doing lots of manipulation and mind games get a lot of possible complex work from me, to achieve deadlines (as they know my work speed is fast), and give me less financial growth after delivering the work.

This situation started when all of the employees got to know each other's salary and I am the highest paid employee (excluding the manager). The employees are asking for the same kind of salary as I am getting, as they also have the same number of years of experience (but not skills). Any startup company is afraid about exposing their business and we are a growing company. My manager and owner are afraid about it.

I never showed these kind of threats to my company and always accepted whatever they are giving me but they are putting a lot of workload on me. On the other side my manager has giving me a sign that he wishes to grow the others as he wants to resolve all conflicts but this thing will restrict my financial growth.

All teammates are connected with the manager via WhatsApp to pass all possible information which I am telling to the teammates (like if I have loan or there are some best approaches which I can improve our software).

When I had some loans from the bank and some of my teammates informed my manager about it, they put extreme work pressure on me to deliver all possible kinds of work. They are verbally talking a lot of time to replace teammates by hiring others by giving visual indication to me. They are trying to threat me about my jobs and trying to put pressure on my head to deliver all possible work. These kind of thing put me many times in mental stress

Regarding that I already complained to HR but I did not get any satisfactory. These kind of thing called leg pulling or mental harassment

Please suggest me what I have to do. How I can prove mental harassment because of verbal manipulation, mind game or drama?

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    Please could you edit the question so that it has paragraphs – Ed Heal Jan 19 '17 at 11:14
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    How on Earth did they find out about your bank loan? – Ed Heal Jan 19 '17 at 11:19
  • I have shared that thing to one of teammate – Rakesh Gaur Jan 19 '17 at 11:20
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    In future do not share anything about your finances with anybody – Ed Heal Jan 19 '17 at 11:21
  • And how did people's salary levels get disclosed? Normally that's confidential information. No one in my teams knows my salary except for my superiors. – user44108 Jan 19 '17 at 11:21

You're stuck in this situation now

Now that the disparity of salary levels are in the open within your team, it's natural for your lower paid colleagues to feel aggrieved. Whatever you do to try and force a softer view of yourself isn't likely to work.

This situation will most probably remain until the team splits up or there's a salary review that levels the pay grade, or you're promoted sideways into another team.

I don't see any easy way out of this dynamic, and this is why pay levels are largely confidential in nature.

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  • @Rakesh - It might be an idea to wait about 24 hours before tagging an answer. It's possible that other people might wish to provide different answers that could suit you better. – user44108 Jan 19 '17 at 11:37
  • Thanks Pete. Because these things, I have resigned one time as i got better opportunity but their work depends on me at that time so HR told me that I have signed NON COMPITATION AGREEMENT In which they have mentioned That I am not allowed to join any cpmpitaiator in name of computer software house next 2 year in UAE. – Rakesh Gaur Jan 19 '17 at 11:39
  • "To refrain from directly or indirectly competing with the Employer or working for another competing organisation in the practice of Computer Software House within UAE for a period of 24 months (not exceeding 24 calendar months) following the expiration or termination of the Emptoyment Contract. " – Rakesh Gaur Jan 19 '17 at 11:41
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    @Pᴇᴛᴇ You rail against sharing salary info with colleagues for the reasons OP experiences, but this is an extreme case. In most cases, salary sharing is BETTER for the workplace, as seen here in this video from my favourite opinion challenger – JohnHC Jan 19 '17 at 12:09
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    @RakeshGaur I'd check with a lawyer about the non compete. Normally they aren't worth the paper they are written on. – Snowlockk Jan 19 '17 at 12:59

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