I met an executive at a seminar; she emailed saying she was desperate for help putting together a website, and asked for 8 hours of my time at professional rate. She also wanted it to be all a (one-on-one) meeting, which I thought odd, but I decided to go along. We met at a library at my choice.

The meeting was uncomfortable and I felt that she wasted a lot of time trying to get my attention on a personal level and like this was more about developing a personal relationship rather than a professional one.

After the meeting I realized that I was inescapably uncomfortable. When I emailed and said I was ending my involvement she asked, "Did I do something wrong?", left a voicemail, asking to talk.

What responsibilities should I, as a professional, complete before I can safely move on to other clients?

  • So, this person is a recruiter, not your coworker, subordinate, or manager, or contractor/contractee?
    – MikeP
    Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 15:20
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    What else do you want to accomplish, besides getting out of the project?
    – MackM
    Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 15:26
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    Do you want to confront her about it? "I want to keep our relationship strictly professional."
    – Brandin
    Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 15:29
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    If you are interested in the project, ignore all non business related discussions. If you are interested in "something" else, cut all ties to business and go from there.
    – Snowlockk
    Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 16:14
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    @DavidK - I reread it several times and I think you are right I think the new version is closer to what the OP was asking. Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 20:37

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It sounds as though you've already left - you've told her already and blocked phone/email channels.

Where you go from here is up to you. If you're having misgivings, you'll need to re-engage and you probably know where that will end up.

If you want to stay away, you just need to look for another project.

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    I think the OP is asking what responsibilities he has since he already took and did work from the 8 hour meeting. Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 20:38
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    Well, there is the obligation to do anything you were actually paid for, and to leave it sufficiently clean and commented that someone else can pick it up from there. (Which may take some additional work, which gets into the question of what time is billable.) Outside of that, if you are inclined to run, you can run; if you are inclined to work you can ask to keep it professional...
    – keshlam
    Commented Feb 2, 2017 at 21:30

If you hadn't already told her you were ending things, I would say that you should have ended things.

You could go as far as to tell her why, that it seemed like she was flirting with you and it made you uncomfortable, but I wouldn't say it's necessary.

You could even suggest that you might be up for completing the work, but that you wouldn't be comfortable meeting in person from that point on..... But if it were me I would have just left and never looked back.

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