From time to time when I ask questions about the task, I get an answer - "we talked about it in the meeting", "we talked about this before" or similar and only then get an answer.
Let's talk about the meeting situation.
The problem is - this makes me annoying to ask questions. But to do a task, I first need to understand well what I need to do.
In the meetings, they are talking fast about things and in words which are not the main thing.
Sometimes when we have to vote on how many points this will have. I say I did not understand well what needed to be done.
The coworker says, what did you not understand? I sometimes do not understand practically everything. Sometimes part of the thing.
But when they explain to me exactly, then I do understand better. For example, when I ask - how many Rest resources will we need for this? I got answers like - 1 for creating, 1 for editing, and one for fetch. Simple crud, no complex logic. Then it becomes much clearer. But not always it is simple.
But I mean even about simple things, at first, they often talk in a way that might be difficult or not clear. So when the story is more complex, and they cannot talk about simple things instantly in an understandable way, then it gets worse with a complex story.
Also, meetings happen in English, not my native language. But for the other attendees, it is not a problem, and I think I know English well enough also as you can see from my post. Just everything goes too fast. Of course, when they understand, it does not look too fast for them.
And the product owner and his team do not have too much time, so that's why they are doing it fast.
I get the answers when I ask after a meeting, but I hate that they treat me as bad by saying "we talked in a meeting". Like I am not listening.
Yea, I am worse if I do not understand while they do but it is how it is. We need to deal with it. I think the most important is that I understand at all after I talk again.
Today when I got this "we talked about this in meeting", I simply said how it was - "we talk about a lot of things in meeting and I am not able to pay attention to everything" and wrote a smile. I am not sure if it could be perceived as passive-aggressive, but it's annoying, and I do not want to get into war with colleagues. I want to have friendly conversations.
So what can you advise? How can I improve my understanding in meetings?
And why do they need to say that "we talked in the meeting"? I am not asking "did we talk about this in the meeting?", I am asking "how is it to be done?".