From time to time when I ask question about the task, I get answer - "we talked about it in meeting" or "we talked about this before" or similar and only then getting answer.
Lets talk about meeting situation.
The problem is - this makes me annoying to ask question. But to do a task, I first need to understand well what I need to do.
In the meetings they are talking fast about things and in a words which are not main thing.
Sometimes when we have to vote on how much points this will have. I say I did not understood well what needs to be done.
The coworker says, what did you not understand? I sometimes do not understand practically everything. Sometimes part of the thing.
But when they explain for me exactly, then I do understand better. For example, when I ask - how many Rest recources will we need for this? I got answer like - 1 for create, 1 for edit, one for fetch. Simple crud, no complex logic. Then it becomes much clearer. But not always it is simple.
But I mean even about simple things, at first they often talk in a way that it might be difficult or not clear. So when story is more complex, and they cannot talk about simple things instantly in understandable way, then it gets worse with complex story.
Also meetings happen in English, not my native language. But for other guys it is not a problem, and I think I know English well enough also as you can see from my post. Just everything goes too fast. Of course when they understand, it does not look too fast for them.
And the product owner and his team do not have too much time also, so thats why they are doing it fast.
I get the answers when I ask after meeting, but I hate that they treat me as bad by saying "we talked in a meeting". Like I am not listening.
Yea, I am worse if I do not understand while they do but it is how it is, we need to deal with it. I think most important is that I understand at all, after I talk again.
Today when I got this "we talked about this in meeting", I simple said how it was - "we talk about lot of things in meeting and I am not able to pay attention to everything" and wrote a smile. I am not sure if it could be perceived as passive aggressive, but its really annoying, and I do not want to get into war with colleagues, I want to have friendly conversations.
So what can you advice? How can I improve my understanding in meetings?
And why they need to tell that "we talked in the meeting"? I am not asking "did we talk about this in the meeting?", I am asking "how it has to be done?".