I currently work at a bar/pub that I don't intend staying in for the rest of my life. My parents are locals at this pub and now my employers are discussing my work with my parents and I never hear the end of it when we are in the house. My employers never discuss anything with me though, can anything be done?

I'm 22

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    Use your pay to move out of your parents house? – Kilisi Mar 13 '17 at 2:52
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    I am on nowhere near enough money to move out. I'd just like my parents not to get involved, I'm not in school anymore, it's not teacher parent conference day – Katie Mar 13 '17 at 2:56
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    Your employer is acting unprofessionally IMO. They should not be discussing your work with your parents at all, much less discussing it with them and not with you. – alroc Mar 13 '17 at 3:12
  • What is it that you never hear the end of? Change your job, or change that behavior. – PeteCon Mar 13 '17 at 4:04
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    I'm surprised that this doesn't have any close votes, what exactly is the question here? – Lilienthal Mar 13 '17 at 11:54

can anything be done?

This seems unlikely, it seems your parents have a long standing and friendly relationship with the owners which quite possibly influenced you getting employment there. But even if it didn't you cannot stop the owners and your parents from talking to each other about you.

What you can do is tell your parents you don't like it and you'd appreciate them not getting involved in conversations with the owner about your work, and tell the owner you'd rather not be getting an earbashing from your parents every week so if they don't mind keeping your working life a bit more between you and them it would be great.

Quite often just letting people (especially those who love you) know that you're uncomfortable with their behaviour is enough to trigger a change. Sometimes works with total strangers as well.

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