I'm a foreign woman in Germany working in the IT field, as provider for another company. I sit in an office with a guy who is loud, despises some groups of people, and sometimes even insults me. We don't work in the same project.
About the insults, so far I have frozen, and the last time, last Monday, he changed the subject so fast I didn't really have time to react. To avoid this attitude from him I avoid talking to him at all, but he keeps talking to me.
About despising some groups of people, he once told me he finds foreigners shitty, he once began to criticize women for always criticizing people and got really nasty on it, he once even began talking disdainfully about nerds on how they believe to be important. Just to give some examples.
I have been practicing in front of a mirror on how to tell (not yell) him to stop insulting me. And I promised myself to pretend to feel self-confident with the hope he doesn't dare to be nasty.
But now I feel weak, and I am afraid that he will smell it and be especially nasty to me.
I also fantasised on telling our PM about it. However, there was a case of sexual harassment directed at me (from an other co-worker. Now I'm in a different office), and while there was a talk with the perpetrator, it was told to both of us that the PM didn't believe he was doing it on purpose, and that I was being too sensitive. After that I don't really trust my PM to take me seriously. Adding after eddit: I believe the PM cares about my well being, he just has problems understanding why constant starring/commenting on breasts is not a compliment or why regular comments in the direction "all women are/do insert here something negative" send the message "women are not welcome here".
Now, what can I do in a short term? On a long term I know I might have to leave if things don't get better.
Edit: on a short term it helped a lot a call from a good friend, where I could cry on his shoulder. Using headphones and making myself unavailable to talk about non-work-related stuff was also great. Seeing anonimous people caring also helped to increase my mood. Now I feel stronger, which gives me the hope to be able to stand up for myself. So thanks again for your answers and questions.
On the long run, it helped to imagine him each time I see him in a pink tutu and a clown nose on his face. First I was seeing him as less threatening, and after a few days as a ridiculous arseh****. Last time he was disrespectful to me I waa able to defend myself. After that he was clearly quieter.