Many of my friends work at major (and smaller) tech companies which are notorious for providing perks for their employees which can range from free meals, laundry services, discounts at certain venues, interesting and vibrant office environments, etc.
I, however, have worked in three companies, none of which have provided free meals. I make my own lunches and take them in. I buy and cook my own groceries for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
When we get together, it is natural for them to talk about their office life and inevitably the discussion of perks comes up. I usually sit in silence because I don't have the kind of perks that they do. Therefore, I find myself feeling a wide variety of emotions when it comes to this topic.
Jealousy - "I wish I had all the free stuff that they did."
Resentment - "They must be entitled, snobby, rich, elitist folks that can't relate to the other 99% of the world. I can't stand their guts and how they can sit there bragging about their successes while others are struggling to get by."
Self-pity - "I'm so pitiful. I have to spend the time and money to prepare my own drab meals while other people are living Instagram-filter-perfect lives."
Self-righteousness - "At least what I'm doing is building character and instilling hard work and adulthood values in me instead of these people that still have Mommy and Daddy making their meals and taking care of every aspect of life for them."
Anti-establishment - "Companies are only doing this because they want them to stay ridiculous hours and like sheep, they just go along with it. Companies only care about their bottom line and they'll do whatever they need to do to squeeze every ounce of work out of their workers."
Other feelings: "These people are already making so much money and they have low expenses so their lives are picture-perfect while mine is quite ordinary in comparison. Oh, your company takes care of this and this for you? Well, I have to do it myself. Good for you. I hope you feel better about your life knowing that you live in an ivory tower and are out of touch with how 99% of the world's companies work. But you can drive in your Tesla, doing your juice cleanse, on the way to a cushy job while the rest of the world gets by on less than $2 a day.
How do I free myself from these emotions or better manage them? I feel I can be quite passive-aggressive among my friends especially when this type of topic comes up.