I have recently started a new job. I have struggled to gain friendships here as I feel there is an established clique. I am frustrated with how much I am left out. The team lead and his best buds go out to lunch often, and I am often the odd man out.
They are all on group e-mail chains, which I over hear about constantly sending each other funny thing back and forth. They often have impromptu meetings without me making design decisions.
I want to be friends with these people. But if that can't happen I at least want to be involved in the work aspect of things. It's difficult because I feel the two are somewhat connected.
I am one of the senior devs on the team. I am not an intern. I am very much apart of the same projects these people are on. I should be involved in discussions. It's hard to feel excited about working here anymore.
My manager(their boss and my boss) is oblivious to the situation. I am sure as he has other things he is working on and worried about.
How can I ask to be included without sounding petty?