It's my first time posting on this forum. I was wondering what people's experiences have been when they asked their manager or superior about the dress code (usually right at the beginning when they start working at their new work place). When I began working at this particular company, I had to sit down with the general manager on my first day to learn about the ins and outs of the company. I was asked at the end if I have any questions and I asked if there was a dress code and she kind of laughed and said "no." After our meeting, she came out of her office and literally at the top of her lungs told the entire office staff about how I had just asked her about the dress code while laughing at the same time. I felt so embarrassed that she did this and had no choice but to sit quietly in front of my desk and let the laughter subside.
I no longer work at the company but to this day, I don't know why it was funny to ask about the dress code or why she had to announce at the top of her lungs to the entire staff about my question. The company organized music festivals and where I worked was in an office space. The kinds of clothes people wore weren't exactly casual but not too formal either except when there were receptions to mark the start of a festival and also working at the box office at the venue where the festival took place (I found this out much later on the job).
Has anyone experienced something similar? Is what the manager did a "normal" thing, in other words, is asking about the dress code really a laughable question to ask managers on the first day at work? What did I do "wrong" here to invite ridicule because that's how it came across to me when she yelled in front of the whole staff about my question. Thanks in advance for any feedback.
**Hello, this is the original poster here. I just took a look at my post since I last visited this page and so much has been changed. As I wrote at the start of the post that I'm very new here so I don't know how it is that my original post has been changed by others. Certain sentences were deleted as well as my original title has been changed. When I put my title in, I didn't get a message saying that it's not an appropriate title to put in. Also, this post is now on hold. I don't know what that means but I simply wanted to know if anyone out there has experienced something similar to mine. Reason being, the experience was so painful that I pushed it deep inside and just recently, something triggered it back to my memory. It's been eating at me and I've decided to confront the pain that was so deeply buried. I see now how much of that experience has shaped the way I have behaved at work as well as in my personal life. I've never shared the experience with anyone because of the pain attached to it. I always thought that this experience was something that was uniquely mine, in other words, there was something wrong with me and that others probably didn't go through something similar. But when I decided to confront the pain, a question popped in my head to re-think whether this experience was just unique to me. So that's why I decided to ask if others out there have experienced something similar, and also to see if anyone can shed some light as to what I'd done wrong (if any) or any other perspective that I haven't thought about. I've been living with this pain for a long time and it was just me with my own thoughts about this experience. I thought that by asking people out there, I might be able to verify if my own thoughts or assessment about this experience is "correct" or not.
As to the comment someone had put in about whether I asked the manager or other co-workers about the experience, the answer is no. I think if I had brought it up, I would have exposed myself to further ridicule because obviously the manager didn't see any "validity" in asking the question in the first place. There was someone else who said that I should have observed how people are dressed prior to asking. The thing is, when I sat down with the manager to hear the ins and outs of the company, there were only a couple of people including the manager in the office. I had just arrived at the company and went straight into the manager's office as that's what I was told by the "middleman" (I wrote about this in one of my comments below) to do. So I didn't get a chance to "observe" other colleagues and their attire. Also, since it was a company that organized a festival (mostly classic music) I wasn't sure if staff needed to "dress" when they needed to briefly pop into the venue to drop off supplies (like box office stuff) and what not. I just wasn't sure what the "culture" or code was in terms of attire.
In any case, as I said, I don't know what it means by a post being on "hold" so I don't know if this post gets shown in public again, but I just wanted to take the time to thank those who have taken the time to read and respond to my post. Thank you.**