I was recently contacted by an external recruiter on LinkedIn for a job that would be a two-hour commute with some flexibility in telecommuting. I spoke with the recruiter on the phone a few times, and she wasn't able to give me details about the job other than what was listed in the official job posting. I asked several clarifying questions about the job, and her answers were in the order of "I assume that x is true about this position."
The recruiter keeps trying to get me to give on the terms with which I would be comfortable accepting this role and seems to be manipulating me with stories of other people that have sacrificed similarly and are ok with it. There are other integrity issues I have with the recruiter that are making this process unpleasant.
I was put in touch with the hiring manager for the company I would be working for and the call went well- the company sounds like a good place to work and has some interesting projects. I am working on coordinating an in-person interview with the company because I am genuinely interested and hope that there may be some room for negotiation to more closely match my terms.
While speaking with the hiring manager, it became apparent that some of the things he expressed about the role don't match up with what the recruiter said about the role. It sounds like the recruiter either misinterpreted facts about the role or did not do her homework. I would assume that the hiring manager knows the true details, but it doesn't leave me feeling comforted that I am getting misinformation from the recruiter.
The job seems like a good opportunity, but I have not had a good experience with the recruiter. Is it worth the agony of dealing with a recruiter that may not have your best interests at heart in order to land a job that could be a good opportunity? Is there a point at which it makes more sense to just cut ties with the recruiter and "move on" even if it means missing a good job opportunity?