I recently moved to a new town and am in job search. A lot of my time is going into attending professional meetups and networking.
In one of these, I come across someone who describes himself as guru, mentor, recruiter, entrepreneur, project manager, .. just to name a few.
In less than 10 days,
I hung with him professionally-- did small talk, shook hands with people he introduced me to, went to a meetup he suggested.
I started working on a project idea he suggested-- wrote up a snapshot which he liked a lot. He then asked me to write a full proposal. When we got together to discuss the first draft, he accused me of plagiarism-- that it's not my text, asked me to prove that it is, yelled and got very rude, asked me stuff about the text to check whether it's my writing, etc.
I'm avoiding him, as smoothly as possible, ever since I got out of that situation. And ever since, he's sending me disturbing, annoying, even abusive text messages.
Can't put my finger on it - however I sensed & ignored vague sexual advances, domineering attitude during that brief time.
How does one handle this situation?
He is influential in the field, and that's what scares me.
Get him out of my circles (he appears as a friend of mine on an online site) and ignore his messages. I worry that he'll turn actively against me if I do this.
Tell him to "stop communicating me" and do the one above. A sensible person would already have done so in response my attitude since.
Tell him something like "my personal circles demand and I agree that I should stop communicating with you. sorry" and again, do the one in (1) above.
I don't think waiting it out is an option. He can claim acquaintance with me and speak about me.
I'm scared that he'll speak against me, get in my way in my job search. He knows many people in town. In those texts he keeps sending, he's discrediting me and my work (I have an online website) to me. He doesn't know where I'm applying-- I never told him. However, he's influential.
I don't have a work relationship with this person or anyone I know through him. All that happened is what I described above, in little over a week!
I unfriended him from my online circle. He texted me once again. I then sent him an email saying that I won't be able to work on his project "for reasons I partly explained before" and asked him not to contact me.
The sc.. replied with something like I "haven't explained any reasons before", and my message "is incorrect.. it doesn't contain good thoughts. "