The company I'm working a summer job with has requested that I attend a training day in a month's time. I'm quite happy to attend the training day - it looks valuable. However, it starts at 09:40am, and it's a long way away.

I don't have a car (as a student, it wouldn't make sense for me to have one), so I'd be travelling on public transit. It would probably take me an hour to walk to the train station on my end, then catching various train connections will take 3 hours, and then it'll take another 40 minutes to take a bus from the station on the other end and walk to the training location. So, looks like I'd have to leave at 6am. That seems pretty reasonable/normal - I got up at 6am every day to go to high school.

Unfortunately, I grew up in a rural area where you had to drive to get anywhere, and I never quite got the hang of using public transit or walking places without getting lost. Typically, to make sure I get somewhere on time, I assume I'll miss a couple trains and spend half an hour wandering around lost looking for the bus station and another half an hour wandering around lost looking for my final destination. Plus, I have ADHD and mornings are the hardest time for me - getting up, getting dressed, showering, brushing teeth, eating breakfast, figuring out where I put my keys, brushing my hair etc typically takes me 2 hours. When you add on all of this, I'm looking at a wake-up time more like 2am or 3am. But I don't particularly want to admit to them that I'm so disorganised and unpractised on public transit that it would take me twice as long as a normal person to navigate someplace - this is a pretty new job and I want to make a good impression!

They said in the mass-email that they are happy to offer overnight accommodation (at their expense) on the night before the training day for those travelling from "far afield". But this company has bases all over Britain - I don't know if by "far afield", they mean "if you're travelling all the way from Scotland to the southern English coast", or if they mean "if you're travelling from outside the city".

So, my question is: Would it be reasonable for someone to request overnight accommodation before a training day in order to avoid having to get up at 6am, or would this come off as lazy/greedy? What is the 'normal' distance for someone to have to travel, before they can reasonably say that they need overnight accommodation?

Alternately, would it make too bad an impression to just state that I struggle with public transit and would have to get up at 3am? If that's unlikely to make them think badly of me, I may just do that.

  • When I have to wake up early for going someplace else I put in a chair everything I need in the next morning. It saves me a good 20 minutes. Commented May 20, 2017 at 23:36
  • I am not going to answer your question but there is one point I think you are overlooking: If it is already stressful for you to be able to get ready at home, then imagine how stressful packing for a night in a hotel, waking up in a hotel bed, starting the day not from home but unknown terrain will be. I am not sure that is actually a good solution for you.
    – skymningen
    Commented May 22, 2017 at 10:06

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Simply ask them if coming from [where you live] counts as "far afield" given that you don't have a car. They will either say yes or no, it won't be based on whether you are good at buses or have a long morning routine, so there's no need to tell them any of that.

If you don't go the night before, consider taking a cab to the train station to save time in the morning. There's a good chance they'll cover that expense, and even if they don't you might find it well worthwhile for a one-time-only opportunity such as a training day. Not only is it faster than walking, but should eliminate the "walking around lost" time.

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    Nah, if a company has employees all over a country and forces a training day for all of them, the cost of an additional hotel night is nothing to worry about. Just kindly request it, without asking. Commented May 20, 2017 at 20:11

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