One my friend got a job offer from Germany which he accepted. He is married and hence decided to go with his wife, he went to office on the first day but unfortunately his wife became ill and he had to come back to his home country immediately. He told the employer about the incident and since the joining formalities were not complete the employer decided to postpone the joining date.
Now, the problem is his wife couldn't adjust to Berlin due to its culture and food or language since they are english speaker and she has decided to not to move there. Now, he is stuck as he has told the employer that he is coming in next 15days.
The employer has invested a considerable amount of time and money and same with him as he was idle for 3 months as he was waiting for visa process.
How should he convince employer that he cannot join without being harsh or looking stupid?
I had a chat with him yesterday and he told me that his wife is in a serious condition she will be operated next week. He left his job three months back waiting for visa formalities to be completed. I completely sympathise with him because it was none of his fault in fact he went to office first day, if it was his own country then he could have managed things differently. I really feel shame for some people who are commenting like he should leave his wife and all.