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Questions tagged [behavior]

Questions regarding behavior inside the workspace or in work-related situations and communication.

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How to counter “I don't like your tone” in a work conversation?

Situation: there is a discussion in the office about making a decision. You make a valid argument based on facts, and the other person, usually a manager, replies with: "I don't like your tone" or "I ...
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How to phrase negative feedback to senior coworker about unwise jokes?

My company has a tool that they use for requesting & providing feedback from others in a respectful & productive way (for both positive & negative feedback). It has a list of standard ...
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Many employees including my manager leave their computer unlocked - how to Enforce good practice? [duplicate]

My manager constantly leaves his computer unlocked. The problem is that he's the IT director, and I'm the IT Systems Administrator, and I leave my computer locked whenever I'm not near it. How can I ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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Is there a polite way to tell a coworker to leave me alone? (subtlety hasn't worked) [closed]

I work with a coworker who is a chatterbox. He loves talking regardless who it is - clients, coworkers, random telemarketing guys, recruiters, you name it, he doesn't need a reason to start blabbing. ...
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Should I ask about new intern behaviour? [closed]

I'm currently only going to the office 2 days a week. The rest of the time, I work remotely from home, so sometimes, I don't get some office news. One of those days, I came in late, 9 am instead of 8 ...
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Should I talk directly to colleague or go directly to HR for inappropriate behavior?

A new person was hired a few weeks ago. He's tells semi awkward jokes, mostly punny ones or "dad" jokes that half the time, aren't perceived as very funny. Every so often he tells a joke that has a ...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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What can I do if I am asked to learn different programming languages very frequently?

I am a software developer and I know languages like Java, JavaScript. A few days ago my project manager asked to learn some other language to work on services related to those language. It took me few ...
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How to acknowledge an embarrassing job interview, now that I work directly with the interviewer?

I work at Mega Large Company Inc. A year ago I was a new hire and very unhappy with my position, so I interviewed around internally in this massive company. I had major anxiety issues at the time (...
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How to handle approving manager's unpleasant behavior?

As a leader of a small project I prepared a business case for financial approval. It got reviewed once by the approving manager, say Alice, and it was found kind of OK, just sent back for rework with ...
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What's right mindset of a successful candidate? [closed]

I got my Physics PhD degree 5 months ago. I have been looking for jobs in Data Science, Machine Learning, and Deep Learning. I did data analysis and machine learning in my PhD; then I went to an AI ...
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Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend

Friend of mine was assigned a task to explore commercial possibilities in a completely new market for the company. There was no real in-house expertise in this market and he was the only guy who had ...
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How to deal with a colleague who I manage and who often gets angry?

I'm managing a newly created team and I'm also learning the whole dev environment we are working with. Our team has a mix of young devs and older devs. One of my colleagues is a senior developer. ...
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Managing the effect of hype on top management as a doer

This is an issue I found in many companies, and it's been verified by friends and colleagues as a general problem. Context: company, often a startup, which is cash-hungry or led by former salespeople ...
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Two interviews, within a few days (Monday and Friday each, long-term positions) [duplicate]

I have two interviews from software companies, one on Monday and the other on Friday. What is the best way to handle the first company (or both, if that matters) so I can keep them both "alive", ...
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Subordinate who has a good reputation may be breaking company policies

I work in big engineering organization. I have a very efficient, dutiful and experienced supervisor working under me. He has gained a great respect for his longtime services in the organization. By ...
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How do you respond when someone scoffs at your reasoned answer to their question?

I have the following scenario where a person I'm working with is new in the team and they're in a leadership role within the team. They asked why something was done a particular way. I gave them ...
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Dealing with unfairness in the workplace

The compensation in my job is highly dependent on new income streams that I produce for my team. However in my team there are several existing income streams that need to be maintained. My issue ...
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Disrespected by more senior employee

I recently started working doing CAD tasks for a more experienced engineer. I work in Europe. I am 26, male. The engineer appears to be in his mid-to-late thirties, also male. He is highly ...
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How to deal with a consultant's difficult employee

We have a new relationship with a consulting firm that provides X service to our company. Unfortunately, this relationship has not gotten off to a great start; while the consulting firm is themselves ...
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How many hours do you actually work in a 8h work day? [closed]

For a western-europe work ethics, how many hours you're expected to be productive in a full-time IT job? I'm always in the office 10-15 minutes before my official starting time and I leave the office ...
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What do employers prefer? Hacker or Asker? [closed]

If two people start at the same time in a company and one is lets say, hypothetically a hacker (not in an illegal sense but in a sense that he likes to dive in, explore and learn things by himself) ...
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How to deal with a bossy coworker

Long story short, our team is now out of its team leader and our manager is not quite involved in our day to day operations. We're a small team with two more senior guys (another guy and myself) and ...
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Deal with unprofessional behaviour of a colleague? [closed]

We have one colleague who is always watching us. Hes not the boss, but just a colleague. Ive had several issues with him. To give an example: Once after lunchtime he came to me, stopped me, pointed ...
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How to politely avoid eating with a colleague

About my eating habits: I usually go to a nearby restaurant to eat. Sometimes I bring away the food and eat it in the company kitchen, but sometimes I go with a group of random people there. ...
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How to incorporate different departmental cultures into a company-wide code of conduct

I have been tasked with the responsibility of writing a code of conduct for our startup business (we are an established but young company with around 20 employees). I am not a qualified HR official, ...
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We have two competing directors. I would like to have tasks from both of them, but is it safe and ethical?

I'm a new employee to a small company. Two years ago, the founder of the company died and we now have two directors, Pavel and Archibald. Pavel is the son of the founder. I don't know how Archibald ...
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How to make a person speak confidently and coherently in an interview? [closed]

I am a beginner video-maker for my local community foundation. My task is to create a small (5min) video story about a very successfull young sportsman. For that I would also like to interview family ...
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What is preferred? Long explanatory e-mail or short introduction with necessary followup? [closed]

When I write the first e-mail in a what I hope to be a dialogue, I tend to write e-mails that may look long (>300 words), but (according to me) explain whatever I need to put across. For example, when ...
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How to address colleagues including me in video recordings in the office when I wish to not be recorded?

A couple of weeks ago two of my colleagues went around the office filming for another colleague's anniversary video. The filming took place on company premises during work hours, and I understand it ...
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How to handle some one misrepresenting what others say

I have an interesting case. A new person joined the company which is something like a project manager. I do not report to this person. It is starting to become apparent that this is a person that ...
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Coworker likes to talk in the men's room [closed]

So when I walk into the Men's room at work I sometimes run into this guy. Whenever he steps up to the urinal, he without fail vocalizes the process. The repertoire typically includes: different ...
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Coworker curses under his breath as he works - should I ignore?

I work in an office where there are 4 of us in the corners of a cube. One of the guys who sits in an adjacent corner acts a little strange. A few times a day (or more), he curses under his breath as ...
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Possibily unprofessional chewing habit [closed]

I'm currently doing an unpaid intern in a medium sized company, to finish my studies and get my master degree in computer science. During my college years, I've developed the habit of chewing plastic ...
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What to say instead of “calm down” if you see the other person getting angry during the discussion?

Assumptions: Conversation is verbal. We will be talking face to face. In a heated argument, people can't be expected to stop talking automatically. They may continue to talk to prove their point. In ...
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Saying “bye” to the boss when leaving office

I'm 22 years old and I got my first job a couple months ago, the workplace is very informal, even with bosses, we have coffee breaks together, we discuss and joke about things that come up at the time,...
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How to fill dead time in work productively [duplicate]

Say, you've done your work and asked your boss to review it. But he's really busy and takes hours. How do you fill that void? Say you've done everything related to it, like documentation, comments, ...
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Candidate talks over me during interview

I'm not an HR person at all, but today I interviewed one candidate who applied for the role of senior embedded software engineer. Indeed, I'm an embedded software engineer, and for 50% of my time I ...
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My job is going awful but I want to improve! What do I say to my boss? [closed]

I started a new position at a company I absolutely adore. I like my boss, the boss' boss, heck I'm even partial to the boss' boss' boss. The environment is very good, and while the work-life balance ...
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Shareholder bullies and doesn't like me. How to deal with this? [closed]

I have been working for over three years for a really small tech company (about 12 people in the team). This is also my first job ever. I have two bosses, the company owner who works almost always ...
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How can I let my manager / colleagues know that my performance might suffer temporarily while grieving or dealing with a personal loss? [closed]

Very closely related to: How to behave with a colleague who suffered the loss of a close family member? and What is an appropriate response to the death of a coworker's loved one? These ...
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How to behave with a colleague who suffered the loss of a close family member?

A colleague had recently lost a close relative and was out of office for about a week. He just returned to work. We do not interact frequently as our duties are not directly related. However, we sit ...
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Can I talk to my rubber duck at work?

I have noticed I have had great success using another co-worker as a metaphorical rubber duck (sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally). It improves my productivity vastly. However, I know ...
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If I discover a breakthrough for my company should I expect to have a share in it? [closed]

As a full time employee for only 1.5 years in a start-up, I may have found a breakthrough that could help the company be a leader in a certain application. If this turns out to be a breakthrough how ...
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What is the best way to coax application ideas from coworkers? [closed]

I'm a new developer at a company that has had a very small development team (2-3 people) for a long time. All the current JIRAs are spoken for and there's no backlog. My big boss told me that since ...
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How to deal with being asked to smile more?

So I'm a Junior Developer, I feel as though I'm a very happy person and I feel like I'm smiling. I love my job and the people I work with; I'm not unhappy. However, my new manager keeps telling me ...
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Should I clarify that my first name isn't the name I go by?

For my entire life, I have been called by my middle name. However, my resume contains my first and last name, so in all contact I've had with recruiters and potential employers, everyone has called me ...
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Should I mention I will be having my birthday on the day of the interview?

I will be having an extremely important interview with a company I am very interested in. After doing some research I am anticipating some off-topic conversations with their team leads and managers. ...
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Address the team or address the employee

There's a team lead who chooses to address the entire team whenever there is a problem with one employee. It's usually trivial to tell who is being referred to because the issue will be with something ...