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How to behave when your nearby coworker looks at what you're doing? [closed]

I have some colleagues who often look at what I'm doing, especially when I turn around, left, or right to get or check something. Is this behavior acceptable or normal? It makes me uncomfortable. What ...
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Should I report an inappropriate remark at work if my friend is the one who said it? [closed]

My employee/ friend made an inappropriate remark in front of another employee who was offended by the remark. I feel obligated to report it?
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Frustration over co-workers engineering habits [closed]

I work in a small, but established software company. I have been there over 2 years now and with time I noticed a growing frustration with one of my teammates and how he functions in the team. To set ...
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How to prevent and safeguard yourself from getting negatively affected by the behaviour of someone at the office

I was recruited to a workplace to do things in subject A. At the interview also they discussed in that way. But now all of a sudden, my Manager asked me whether I can do things in subject B. I'm not ...
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When should one stop trying to eat with immediate coworkers in your team? [closed]

I have heard that one should not eat alone at work. I tried to meet with my team members but it is hard to get this pattern to stick as I eat at different times, I would rather finish work earlier and ...
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Handling a manager's irritating behaviour, rejecting promotion request

In the organization, there are 3 levels of managers, L1 (my direct reportee), L2 (middle management), and L3 (C-suite). I've been performing well since the day I joined the organization (1,5 years), ...
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Will IBM's asshole test work? [closed]

When I read this article about IBM's asshole test, I doubt that will work. This is an asshole test. You see who turns into an asshole under pressure and they don't make it to the next round". ...
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Long-term contractor behaving like a FT employee? [closed]

The extreme case where it is clear is you hire someone to install say the phones. He obviously does that and leaves. But I have worked in companies where a contractor might stay for years and attends ...
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Is the default to at least pretend to be vegetarian? [closed]

I work in a multicultural environment and I know for sure to order vegetarian if we have lunch. But I also will not even discuss having eaten non-vegetarian food. Is this a new norm or am I imagining ...
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For a startup with 3+ founders how can it be damaging if two of the founders are working more closely together than with the rest of the team?

I am part of a startup that currently has four founders. Initially I started working on this project with a friend of mine, later on we invited two more people to join us. Currently, the distribution ...
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Unskilled team leader is using bad behaviour to manifest her position

I work in a fast growing engineering company of around 100 employees in a team of now 6 people. We used to report directly to the CEO. About a year ago, the CEO decided to change the structure and ...
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How to write a letter of complaint about mean girls

I am in the UK. I understand that there are 'protected characteristics' that one is fully justified in raising complaints about if violated and are taken very seriously by the management however, ...
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Becoming more social in life and at workplace [closed]

I work in a large office with many coworkers. I am not a very social person. But, would like to change this and build better relationships in life (not limited to workplace). Is there anyone here who ...
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How to deal with a senior who is showing signs of lethargy?

I am working on a project with a team of three (my team lead, me and one of my peer). My team lead is very experienced in the field and vastly knowledgeable. He is very dedicated and committed to the ...
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Dealing with toxic member on disciplinary action

I am the functional manager of a team with ten people. One of them, who is very highly skilled, has turned very hostile in the last few months towards colleagues and myself. We had a 1:1 three months ...
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What should you do when the IT department just copy paste emails and then assign the ticket to you?

What should you do when the IT department just copy paste emails and then assign the ticket to you? I noticed they just copy paste the email they receive and they don't make an effort to solve them by ...
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Is it rude to ask if a task is done almost immediately after it was given? [closed]

Is it rude to ask if a task is done almost immediately after it was given? I have a manager and this manager gets a lots of complaints from others, so I am not sure if I am the only one. And just ...
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How to be independent at workplace while being friendly

At work places we have to stay independent to complete our services properly, right? In my new work place, there are 2 other girls, quite of my same age. So I greet them friendly and try to maintain ...
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Coworker wrote me into fictional book

I work in IT, but have a coworker who wrote a novel in her spare time. It wasn't a NY Times bestseller, but my understanding is it did surprisingly well for an independent author. I finally read it ...
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I suspect that an employee is constantly lying to me. How should I approach this in the one-on-one meeting with him?

I have been managing a small team of engineers for some months and one of the employees is being very difficult to deal with. This difficulty has been confirmed by both HR and his manager before me. I ...
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Convince my boss and team to dismiss "arguments from authority" when the correct facts are within easy reach [closed]

The Consultant I've spent several hours of meetings with my boss, colleagues and an external consultant to discuss a certain topic. The external consultant has introduced the same topic in other ...
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My colleague uses slang around the office and it offends me. Can I do something?

I have worked with this colleague for about 6 months. He can act professional when he wants to but he usually likes to use such phrases like "aight man" when saying good bye or says "...
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Is saying there's *talent* in that building inappropriate [closed]

Setting: Having lunch outside of work, casual place, all 6 guys in our team, the 2 ladies skipped it. We've had a new starter (I know) who's been working at home since he started and he asked "...
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Is it ok for me to ask a co-worker about their surgery?

So, one of my co-workers informed me today that she was going to be on a week-long leave for an upcoming surgery and would need time to recover. She wanted me to handle anything that might come her ...
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How can I understand unwritten rules in office? [closed]

When you join a new company or team or group of people then there are unwritten office rules which everyone knows. But since you are new, it takes you some time to understand those.
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My boss makes me use cracked software. How should I react?

I work as an engineer for a very small company which is specialized in mechanical engineering design & simulation. Since I arrived here almost 2 years ago, we have been using cracked softwares to ...
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Was I wrong to tell an interviewer I work night shift and recently woke up? [closed]

I work night shift, so I wake up in the afternoon around 3:00pm-4:00pm to go work at night. I scheduled an interview with a company in the afternoon, and since this is technically my morning I was a ...
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How to approach colleague to address lack of teamwork behavior

Background: we are a small hardware startup, with a management team of 3. Our day-to-day can be extremely high stress and frustrating, much of which stems from an inexperienced ceo. In my role, I ...
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Strange Behavior by Recruiters on LinkedIn

I wanted to talk about something strange that's been happening with me and recruiters on LinkedIn. The thing is, the recruiters contact me there through the messaging service describing a potential ...
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Is this an adversarial statement? [closed]

“Developers need to be informed the scope, timelines, and other expectations that are material to the success of needed changes.” This statement was made by a developer to an executive, a non-...
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Why nobody wants to tell the boss he's made a mistake?

I'm not dealing with these situations myself, but I recalled a few cases I've seen happened over the years. I'm wondering why this happens and how should managers act to prevent this kind of issue. ...
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Sudden change in manager's behavior toward me - what does it mean and how can I get things under control?

I started a job in January in a big company in France directly managed by the head of one research team. Since three or four weeks, I've noticed a change in his behavior toward me. Having spent a lot ...
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How to handle a senior colleague who is critical?

I have a senior colleague who is very intelligent and appears to recall absolutely everything he has ever witnessed, with clarity and immediate comprehension and insight. I am not so gifted and have ...
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Meeting organization

I am a developer who is new to big company environments. I am tasked with writing simulations for our products for testing them. Due to that, I have to frequently get feedback from product developers, ...
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Strange line manager/colleague behaviour how to react?

It happened few weeks ago I was discussing with a colleague (name him Paul) about work, the conversation was about plans for a project we are both involved in. Paul was extremely confused and worried ...
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How to work with a knowledgeable but condescending senior?

My manager wants me to challenge a software architect who is senior to the both of us and who has a a history of reacting poorly to this, going so far as to push colleagues out of the team. How can I ...
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consulting industry - chaotic behaviour

My team and I have been working on a change management project. Our client, a director, has set rather broad goals on a particular topic to reach within a complex context. D doesn't participate in ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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How to deal with obsessive people?

Characteristics of the Person:- Dogmatic and doesn't have a full stop in his conversation. He talks what he wants to talk, and isn't interested in what others want to talk or anything outside the ...
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Are practical jokes common and acceptable at work if no one gets irreversibly annoyed? [closed]

Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. A coworker left a note on a manager's chair that said "Tack" after a ...
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How to respond to someone who condemns behavior similar to what they exhibit?

I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at ...
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How to counter "I don't like your tone" in a work conversation?

Situation: there is a discussion in the office about making a decision. You make a valid argument based on facts, and the other person, usually a manager, replies with: "I don't like your tone" or "I ...
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How to phrase negative feedback to senior coworker about unwise jokes?

My company has a tool that they use for requesting & providing feedback from others in a respectful & productive way (for both positive & negative feedback). It has a list of standard ...
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Many employees including my manager leave their computer unlocked - how to Enforce good practice? [duplicate]

My manager constantly leaves his computer unlocked. The problem is that he's the IT director, and I'm the IT Systems Administrator, and I leave my computer locked whenever I'm not near it. How can I ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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Is there a polite way to tell a coworker to leave me alone? (subtlety hasn't worked) [closed]

I work with a coworker who is a chatterbox. He loves talking regardless who it is - clients, coworkers, random telemarketing guys, recruiters, you name it, he doesn't need a reason to start blabbing. ...
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Should I ask about new intern behaviour? [closed]

I'm currently only going to the office 2 days a week. The rest of the time, I work remotely from home, so sometimes, I don't get some office news. One of those days, I came in late, 9 am instead of 8 ...
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Should I talk directly to colleague or go directly to HR for inappropriate behavior?

A new person was hired a few weeks ago. He's tells semi awkward jokes, mostly punny ones or "dad" jokes that half the time, aren't perceived as very funny. Every so often he tells a joke that has a ...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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What can I do if I am asked to learn different programming languages very frequently?

I am a software developer and I know languages like Java, JavaScript. A few days ago manager asked me to learn some other language to work on services related to those language. It took me few days ...
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