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Questions regarding behavior inside the workspace or in work-related situations and communication.

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Is saying there's *talent* in that building inappropriate [closed]

Setting: Having lunch outside of work, casual place, all 6 guys in our team, the 2 ladies skipped it. We've had a new starter (I know) who's been working at home since he started and he asked "...
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Is it ok for me to ask a co-worker about their surgery?

So, one of my co-workers informed me today that she was going to be on a week-long leave for an upcoming surgery and would need time to recover. She wanted me to handle anything that might come her ...
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How can I understand unwritten rules in office? [closed]

When you join a new company or team or group of people then there are unwritten office rules which everyone knows. But since you are new, it takes you some time to understand those.
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My boss makes me use cracked software. How should I react?

I work as an engineer for a very small company which is specialized in mechanical engineering design & simulation. Since I arrived here almost 2 years ago, we have been using cracked softwares to ...
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Strange line manager/colleague behaviour how to react?

It happened few weeks ago I was discussing with a colleague (name him Paul) about work, the conversation was about plans for a project we are both involved in. Paul was extremely confused and worried ...
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Was I wrong to tell an interviewer I work night shift and recently woke up? [closed]

I work night shift, so I wake up in the afternoon around 3:00pm-4:00pm to go work at night. I scheduled an interview with a company in the afternoon, and since this is technically my morning I was a ...
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Do I need to act happy all the time even if I'm not really?

I'm a software engineer from India. Recently, I suffered a personal loss which made me sad. I usually have my spirits up, but this time I just didn't feel like laughing at every stupid joke in the ...
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How to approach colleague to address lack of teamwork behavior

Background: we are a small hardware startup, with a management team of 3. Our day-to-day can be extremely high stress and frustrating, much of which stems from an inexperienced ceo. In my role, I ...
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Strange Behavior by Recruiters on LinkedIn

I wanted to talk about something strange that's been happening with me and recruiters on LinkedIn. The thing is, the recruiters contact me there through the messaging service describing a potential ...
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Is this an adversarial statement? [closed]

“Developers need to be informed the scope, timelines, and other expectations that are material to the success of needed changes.” This statement was made by a developer to an executive, a non-...
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Why nobody wants to tell the boss he's made a mistake?

I'm not dealing with these situations myself, but I recalled a few cases I've seen happened over the years. I'm wondering why this happens and how should managers act to prevent this kind of issue. ...
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What can I do if I am asked to learn different programming languages very frequently?

I am a software developer and I know languages like Java, JavaScript. A few days ago manager asked me to learn some other language to work on services related to those language. It took me few days ...
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Sudden change in manager's behavior toward me - what does it mean and how can I get things under control?

I started a job in January in a big company in France directly managed by the head of one research team. Since three or four weeks, I've noticed a change in his behavior toward me. Having spent a lot ...
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How to handle a senior colleague who is critical?

I have a senior colleague who is very intelligent and appears to recall absolutely everything he has ever witnessed, with clarity and immediate comprehension and insight. I am not so gifted and have ...
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Meeting organization

I am a developer who is new to big company environments. I am tasked with writing simulations for our products for testing them. Due to that, I have to frequently get feedback from product developers, ...
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How to work with a knowledgeable but condescending senior?

My manager wants me to challenge a software architect who is senior to the both of us and who has a a history of reacting poorly to this, going so far as to push colleagues out of the team. How can I ...
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consulting industry - chaotic behaviour

My team and I have been working on a change management project. Our client, a director, has set rather broad goals on a particular topic to reach within a complex context. D doesn't participate in ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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How to deal with obsessive people?

Characteristics of the Person:- Dogmatic and doesn't have a full stop in his conversation. He talks what he wants to talk, and isn't interested in what others want to talk or anything outside the ...
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Are practical jokes common and acceptable at work if no one gets irreversibly annoyed? [closed]

Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. A coworker left a note on a manager's chair that said "Tack" after a ...
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Is there a polite way to tell a coworker to leave me alone? (subtlety hasn't worked) [closed]

I work with a coworker who is a chatterbox. He loves talking regardless who it is - clients, coworkers, random telemarketing guys, recruiters, you name it, he doesn't need a reason to start blabbing. ...
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How to respond to someone who condemns behavior similar to what they exhibit?

I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at ...
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How to counter “I don't like your tone” in a work conversation?

Situation: there is a discussion in the office about making a decision. You make a valid argument based on facts, and the other person, usually a manager, replies with: "I don't like your tone" or "I ...
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How to phrase negative feedback to senior coworker about unwise jokes?

My company has a tool that they use for requesting & providing feedback from others in a respectful & productive way (for both positive & negative feedback). It has a list of standard ...
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Many employees including my manager leave their computer unlocked - how to Enforce good practice? [duplicate]

My manager constantly leaves his computer unlocked. The problem is that he's the IT director, and I'm the IT Systems Administrator, and I leave my computer locked whenever I'm not near it. How can I ...
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what to do if my colleagues are extremely cold/distant?

After many years of unemployment (thanks Spain) I finally got a full time job. I started in September and found that my co-workers were the coldest people I've ever met. I asked a few friends and an ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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What to say instead of “calm down” if you see the other person getting angry during the discussion?

Assumptions: Conversation is verbal. We will be talking face to face. In a heated argument, people can't be expected to stop talking automatically. They may continue to talk to prove their point. In ...
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Should I ask about new intern behaviour? [closed]

I'm currently only going to the office 2 days a week. The rest of the time, I work remotely from home, so sometimes, I don't get some office news. One of those days, I came in late, 9 am instead of 8 ...
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Should I talk directly to colleague or go directly to HR for inappropriate behavior?

A new person was hired a few weeks ago. He's tells semi awkward jokes, mostly punny ones or "dad" jokes that half the time, aren't perceived as very funny. Every so often he tells a joke that has a ...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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How to acknowledge an embarrassing job interview, now that I work directly with the interviewer?

I work at Mega Large Company Inc. A year ago I was a new hire and very unhappy with my position, so I interviewed around internally in this massive company. I had major anxiety issues at the time (...
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How to politely avoid eating with a colleague

About my eating habits: I usually go to a nearby restaurant to eat. Sometimes I bring away the food and eat it in the company kitchen, but sometimes I go with a group of random people there. ...
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How to handle approving manager's unpleasant behavior?

As a leader of a small project I prepared a business case for financial approval. It got reviewed once by the approving manager, say Alice, and it was found kind of OK, just sent back for rework with ...
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Managing the effect of hype on top management as a doer

This is an issue I found in many companies, and it's been verified by friends and colleagues as a general problem. Context: company, often a startup, which is cash-hungry or led by former salespeople ...
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What do employers prefer? Hacker or Asker? [closed]

If two people start at the same time in a company and one is lets say, hypothetically a hacker (not in an illegal sense but in a sense that he likes to dive in, explore and learn things by himself) ...
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What's right mindset of a successful candidate? [closed]

I got my Physics PhD degree 5 months ago. I have been looking for jobs in Data Science, Machine Learning, and Deep Learning. I did data analysis and machine learning in my PhD; then I went to an AI ...
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Should I quit the job because of misunderstanding with friend

Friend of mine was assigned a task to explore commercial possibilities in a completely new market for the company. There was no real in-house expertise in this market and he was the only guy who had ...
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How to deal with a colleague who I manage and who often gets angry?

I'm managing a newly created team and I'm also learning the whole dev environment we are working with. Our team has a mix of young devs and older devs. One of my colleagues is a senior developer. ...
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A co-worker secretly takes photos of me at work

I have recently joined an IT firm as a programmer, after a career in painting didn't look so promising. The office that I work in, is like any other force, like one of those open plan offices; desks ...
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Can I talk to my rubber duck at work?

I have noticed I have had great success using another co-worker as a metaphorical rubber duck (sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally). It improves my productivity vastly. However, I know ...
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Subordinate who has a good reputation may be breaking company policies

I work in big engineering organization. I have a very efficient, dutiful and experienced supervisor working under me. He has gained a great respect for his longtime services in the organization. By ...
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Two interviews, within a few days (Monday and Friday each, long-term positions) [duplicate]

I have two interviews from software companies, one on Monday and the other on Friday. What is the best way to handle the first company (or both, if that matters) so I can keep them both "alive", ...
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How do you respond when someone scoffs at your reasoned answer to their question?

I have the following scenario where a person I'm working with is new in the team and they're in a leadership role within the team. They asked why something was done a particular way. I gave them ...
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Dealing with unfairness in the workplace

The compensation in my job is highly dependent on new income streams that I produce for my team. However in my team there are several existing income streams that need to be maintained. My issue ...
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Disrespected by more senior employee

I recently started working doing CAD tasks for a more experienced engineer. I work in Europe. I am 26, male. The engineer appears to be in his mid-to-late thirties, also male. He is highly ...
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How to deal with a consultant's difficult employee

We have a new relationship with a consulting firm that provides X service to our company. Unfortunately, this relationship has not gotten off to a great start; while the consulting firm is themselves ...
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How many hours do you actually work in a 8h work day? [closed]

For a western-europe work ethics, how many hours you're expected to be productive in a full-time IT job? I'm always in the office 10-15 minutes before my official starting time and I leave the office ...
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How to deal with a bossy coworker

Long story short, our team is now out of its team leader and our manager is not quite involved in our day to day operations. We're a small team with two more senior guys (another guy and myself) and ...
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Deal with unprofessional behaviour of a colleague? [closed]

We have one colleague who is always watching us. Hes not the boss, but just a colleague. Ive had several issues with him. To give an example: Once after lunchtime he came to me, stopped me, pointed ...