Questions tagged [behavior]

Questions regarding behavior inside the workspace or in work-related situations and communication.

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Can I talk to my rubber duck at work?

I have noticed I have had great success using another co-worker as a metaphorical rubber duck (sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally). It improves my productivity vastly. However, I know ...
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Coworker curses under his breath as he works - should I ignore?

I work in an office where there are 4 of us in the corners of a cube. One of the guys who sits in an adjacent corner acts a little strange. A few times a day (or more), he curses under his breath as ...
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How to acknowledge an embarrassing job interview, now that I work directly with the interviewer?

I work at Mega Large Company Inc. A year ago I was a new hire and very unhappy with my position, so I interviewed around internally in this massive company. I had major anxiety issues at the time (...
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What to say instead of “calm down” if you see the other person getting angry during the discussion?

Assumptions: Conversation is verbal. We will be talking face to face. In a heated argument, people can't be expected to stop talking automatically. They may continue to talk to prove their point. In ...
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How to handle a colleague who appears helpful in front of manager but doesn't help in private?

TL;DR A colleague offers (unsolicited) help in front of manager, but actually doesn't help. What to do? The long version: I have recently started on a new job. There is another very senior person, ...
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Is it rude to eat/drink in front of a colleague who is fasting during Ramadan?

I often feel hungry and have snacks at my desk. Today, I realized that Ramadan has begun and my colleague who sits beside me is fasting. So I quietly kept my snacks back. I felt it might seem rude and ...
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How to politely avoid eating with a colleague

About my eating habits: I usually go to a nearby restaurant to eat. Sometimes I bring away the food and eat it in the company kitchen, but sometimes I go with a group of random people there. ...
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My co-worker is secretly taking pictures of me

I started working at my first real job (not student work) in autumn of last year. In my job there are mostly male employees. I am a (like I want to believe, good looking) female – age 25. We have two ...
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Do I need to act happy all the time even if I'm not really?

I'm a software engineer from India. Recently, I suffered a personal loss which made me sad. I usually have my spirits up, but this time I just didn't feel like laughing at every stupid joke in the ...
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Employee died unexpectedly - how should I act towards the deceased's colleague?

So, I work in a small company, we mostly do temporary projects for a very big company with many departments. In one of the departments, an employee died unexpectedly some weeks ago. I did not know ...
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How to address colleagues including me in video recordings in the office when I wish to not be recorded?

A couple of weeks ago two of my colleagues went around the office filming for another colleague's anniversary video. The filming took place on company premises during work hours, and I understand it ...
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How to deal with being asked to smile more?

So I'm a Junior Developer, I feel as though I'm a very happy person and I feel like I'm smiling. I love my job and the people I work with; I'm not unhappy. However, my new manager keeps telling me ...
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How to work with a supervisor who forgets what he asked for?

I work as a programmer in a small company and a small team. I am currently working under a senior supervisor/architect. The problem I face is: The architect assigns work to individual programmers in ...
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What can I do if I am asked to learn different programming languages very frequently?

I am a software developer and I know languages like Java, JavaScript. A few days ago manager asked me to learn some other language to work on services related to those language. It took me few days ...
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Candidate talks over me during interview

I'm not an HR person at all, but today I interviewed one candidate who applied for the role of senior embedded software engineer. Indeed, I'm an embedded software engineer, and for 50% of my time I ...
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Company asking employees to take behavioral/personality test

I work for a tech company in the US and they just started asking some employees (not sure if all, or just a selected few) that we take something called the Predictive Index (PI). I could not find much ...
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Was I wrong to tell an interviewer I work night shift and recently woke up? [closed]

I work night shift, so I wake up in the afternoon around 3:00pm-4:00pm to go work at night. I scheduled an interview with a company in the afternoon, and since this is technically my morning I was a ...
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Is it ok for me to ask a co-worker about their surgery?

So, one of my co-workers informed me today that she was going to be on a week-long leave for an upcoming surgery and would need time to recover. She wanted me to handle anything that might come her ...
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A co-worker secretly takes photos of me at work

I have recently joined an IT firm as a programmer, after a career in painting didn't look so promising. The office that I work in, is like any other force, like one of those open plan offices; desks ...
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How to behave with a colleague who suffered the loss of a close family member?

A colleague had recently lost a close relative and was out of office for about a week. He just returned to work. We do not interact frequently as our duties are not directly related. However, we sit ...
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How to decide between jobs based on office environment?

I'm fresh out of grad school and busy interviewing for my first job (in roughly the data science field). I've interviewed at two companies, both of which look like they can offer me great experience ...
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Saying “bye” to the boss when leaving office

I'm 22 years old and I got my first job a couple months ago, the workplace is very informal, even with bosses, we have coffee breaks together, we discuss and joke about things that come up at the time,...
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How to respond to someone who condemns behavior similar to what they exhibit?

I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at ...
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My boss makes me use cracked software. How should I react?

I work as an engineer for a very small company which is specialized in mechanical engineering design & simulation. Since I arrived here almost 2 years ago, we have been using cracked softwares to ...
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Is it considered rude or bad if I politely refuse to have lunch offered by the interviewer?

I had a job interview that was originally scheduled before lunch. However, their interview with the previous candidate overran considerably and since we are Muslim and have prayers on Friday, they ...
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When talking with a client, what should I do with my hands?

When talking with a client, what should I do with my hands? Should I put them in my back pockets? Let them hang? Put them over my pockets? This may sound stupid, but it is an important component to ...
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Hostile co worker

My team was approached today by our manager. Background: We have a hostile co worker. He's aggressive, sarcastic, rude to clients and managers. About 4 months ago he out of the blue stopped talking ...
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How to deal with a bossy coworker

Long story short, our team is now out of its team leader and our manager is not quite involved in our day to day operations. We're a small team with two more senior guys (another guy and myself) and ...
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Strange Behavior by Recruiters on LinkedIn

I wanted to talk about something strange that's been happening with me and recruiters on LinkedIn. The thing is, the recruiters contact me there through the messaging service describing a potential ...
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Many employees including my manager leave their computer unlocked - how to Enforce good practice? [duplicate]

My manager constantly leaves his computer unlocked. The problem is that he's the IT director, and I'm the IT Systems Administrator, and I leave my computer locked whenever I'm not near it. How can I ...
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Disrespected by more senior employee

I recently started working doing CAD tasks for a more experienced engineer. I work in Europe. I am 26, male. The engineer appears to be in his mid-to-late thirties, also male. He is highly ...
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Should I clarify that my first name isn't the name I go by?

For my entire life, I have been called by my middle name. However, my resume contains my first and last name, so in all contact I've had with recruiters and potential employers, everyone has called me ...
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How to handle a coworker who likes arguing to cause conflict

At several jobs I've had a colleague that I had to work with who liked to argue over pointless things. It can be very frustrating and time consuming and is never productive, and usually is only ...
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Shareholder bullies and doesn't like me. How to deal with this? [closed]

I have been working for over three years for a really small tech company (about 12 people in the team). This is also my first job ever. I have two bosses, the company owner who works almost always ...
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How to deal with an interviewer who is wrong on technical answers, but doesn't let you explain? [duplicate]

I attended interviews for the position of Android Developer in two different companies. I knew my answer was right, but the interviewer was incorrect leading to him thinking that I have answered ...
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Why nobody wants to tell the boss he's made a mistake?

I'm not dealing with these situations myself, but I recalled a few cases I've seen happened over the years. I'm wondering why this happens and how should managers act to prevent this kind of issue. ...
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How can I understand unwritten rules in office? [closed]

When you join a new company or team or group of people then there are unwritten office rules which everyone knows. But since you are new, it takes you some time to understand those.
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How to phrase negative feedback to senior coworker about unwise jokes?

My company has a tool that they use for requesting & providing feedback from others in a respectful & productive way (for both positive & negative feedback). It has a list of standard ...
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How to work with a knowledgeable but condescending senior?

My manager wants me to challenge a software architect who is senior to the both of us and who has a a history of reacting poorly to this, going so far as to push colleagues out of the team. How can I ...
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Managing the effect of hype on top management as a doer

This is an issue I found in many companies, and it's been verified by friends and colleagues as a general problem. Context: company, often a startup, which is cash-hungry or led by former salespeople ...
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Assigned work that is above my skill level, how should I handle it?

I'm still a junior web developer, I have some trouble with Databases, its my weakness, but I still know some things on them. My boss asked me if I knew databases and I said yes, hoping it was ...
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I'm quite unprofessional outside job environment. Can it be an issue?

My work life and my personal life has huge differences. People I know here seem to be much more calm and both in personality and in their hobbies. Don't get me wrong: I can talk about non-work ...
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Subordinate who has a good reputation may be breaking company policies

I work in big engineering organization. I have a very efficient, dutiful and experienced supervisor working under me. He has gained a great respect for his longtime services in the organization. By ...
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what to do if my colleagues are extremely cold/distant?

After many years of unemployment (thanks Spain) I finally got a full time job. I started in September and found that my co-workers were the coldest people I've ever met. I asked a few friends and an ...
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Address the team or address the employee

There's a team lead who chooses to address the entire team whenever there is a problem with one employee. It's usually trivial to tell who is being referred to because the issue will be with something ...
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Are practical jokes common and acceptable at work if no one gets irreversibly annoyed? [closed]

Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. A coworker left a note on a manager's chair that said "Tack" after a ...
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What should I do about an employee eating at their desk? [closed]

I work at a conservative company where employees are not allowed to eat at their desk. The rule has always been in place, but has been more strictly enforced when we developed a pest infestation that ...
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Is there an ideal way to deal with a higher-level colleague who is wrong and aggressive?

I recently had an experience with a 'Principal Architect' (who has been with the company for 12 out of the 15 years its existence). He forwarded me a defect with a comment saying that it's caused by ...
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How to deal with a colleague who I manage and who often gets angry?

I'm managing a newly created team and I'm also learning the whole dev environment we are working with. Our team has a mix of young devs and older devs. One of my colleagues is a senior developer. ...
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How to counter “I don't like your tone” in a work conversation?

Situation: there is a discussion in the office about making a decision. You make a valid argument based on facts, and the other person, usually a manager, replies with: "I don't like your tone" or "I ...