Questions tagged [bullying]

Questions relating to abusive / intimidating behaviour in the workplace

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How to deal with an abusive boss

Our department has a very high turnover rate from people leaving after being repeatedly yelled at and demeaned by our boss. This is causing more strain on the remaining members due to unfinished ...
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How to deal with senior coworker harassing me, stabbing me in the back, and undermining my work? [closed]

One of my senior coworkers who is in a position of significant responsibility hates me and has been hiding it for months by behaving like a wolf in sheep's clothing to protect his status and ...
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Bullied via Zoom

I was in a Zoom Meeting at work. Sue was sharing her screen, Bill was leading the discussion, Anne, myself and two Data Engineers were in attendance. We are all peers and individual contributors. ...
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Senior colleague with intimidating behaviour [closed]

What can I do about a senior colleague who is always playing petty mind games, e.g. routinely ignores me, is very slow to respond to messages, work queries etc, sometimes by days! He is cold and aloof....
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getting bullied to resign instead of getting fired

I've been working in Germany in a company with a permanent contract for 2 years. Lately, my manager has seen that my performance is not up to the level it should be and therefore I got 2 options: ...
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Strange line manager/colleague behaviour how to react?

It happened few weeks ago I was discussing with a colleague (name him Paul) about work, the conversation was about plans for a project we are both involved in. Paul was extremely confused and worried ...
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Clashed with management, How to deal with fallout?

I am currently an apprentice as a developer in a German company (25 employees). The job started well, but in the last two months things soured. Background: My contract states, that I have to bring a ...
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Concerned about probation, and passive aggressive behaviour from colleague

I am a software engineer, and have been working in this role since September. There is a 6 month probation period, so I am assuming the probation review will take place in mid-March. So far, I have ...
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I am a new employee and HR is picking on me. How to establish myself as un-bullyable early on?

I recently started a job at an engineering company and I am the only female on my team. I have the impression that the female HR manager is trying to put me down. She never does this to the newbie ...
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Boss giving criticism about things that are impossible to define or validate e.g “you are not giving your maximum”. Is that bullying? How to address?

I am having problems with my boss. He always criticises me by saying things you cannot validate. For example: you are not giving your maximum. I reply by asking how exactly do you "define" the ...
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Coworker tells lies and damages reputation

I was promoted to a new position in a new place with a new team three years ago. I was assigned to assist and take over leadership of part of the workload of a coworker. The coworker became jealous. ...
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Defense against HR bully

Today a HR representative (G) made a mistake; she left confidential material in the printer, and someone unknown put it on the desk of the person (P) whose name appears on top of the documents. P went ...
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How do you forgive/let go/move on from a bully ex employer

It’s been about 7 months since I was fired from a startup where the COO was bullying me into leaving. For instance: I was ambushed into meeting rooms a few times where he’d point a finger and tell ...
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Quit a job after only 9 months, not sure how to talk about it down the line when seeking positions

I just quit a job after 9 months. Landed another job. Here is why I quit: Job involved a relocation that was not going well at all. I really disliked the new area, and missed the old area. I was ...
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Stop engineer from planning “bully projects”

I work for a enginering company where a few senior engineers got into a large fight that caused a lot of concern. The more senior engineer "stone walled" the not as senior engineer apparently, and the ...
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Confidentiality broken?? Major UK employer [closed]

I work a for a very well known unique boating company in the south of the UK. Our team leader recently had a grievance put in against him and we had to give statements on his attitude etc, then we ...
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Bullying at workplace: I'm confused how to take action

This is an issue I'm struggling with for several months, and it's bullying. The bully is a colleague working on the same project as me who calls my name with a certain suffix, and he is very well ...
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My colleague treats me like he's my boss, yet we're on the same level

I started my current role a few months ago as an analyst, joining another person who had started one month before me, with the very same job title. He's two years older than me, but he treats me like ...
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How to explain to interviewer why I left my job due to bullying/bad work environment? [duplicate]

I worked at this company for 6 months, about 3 months into my job, I started getting made fun of and laughed at from roughly, 5-7 people. This behavior continued pretty much everyday, up until I quit/...
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Should I report a former managers abuse?

So I recently left a job where I was being bullied pretty badly. Now I've found a better job, and I'm happy I left, but I'm wondering whether I should lodge a complaint against the manager who acted ...
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Is there anything I can do to warn others about a bad company?

I was very successful in my position until I started to be bullied. I was criticised in an offensive, not constructive way. Rumours were spread about me. I was portrayed in an extremely negative light ...
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Is having a boss this rude normal?

I am currently working at my first "real" job. Everyone is nice, except my boss. When I am talking to him, he will often visibly roll his eyes at me. He also puts me down in front of my coworkers, ...
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable

My boss has a history of bullying multiple people in the past to work crazy hours to meet absolutely unrealistic deadlines which have led to numerous cases of serious depression and even one (...
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How to hold a strong mentality if your boss is bullying you at work?

I'll try to be fair and explain the entire situation, if I am at fault please tell me. Till a few weeks ago everything with work was fine, until I started taking too long to finish a task and my boss ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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Line-manager is denying me training as an apprentice and has started threatening & bullying me

I've been working as a graphic design apprentice for the past 10 months. Part of the requirement for me to pass is to take 20% off the job training. My line-manager initially asked me if I could work ...
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How can I stop my boss in Germany from bullying me without worsening my future job prospects?

I am a foreigner who recently started a minimum wage job in Germany that I think I can't replace easily at all. My employer has been behaving strangely, for example by being very friendly and offering ...
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Staff returning to work after gross misconduct

I was wondering I someone could help me with the below on what paths I can take? I am from the UK. Recently, accusations was made about myself that could ruin the career I am in. The owner of the ...
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What to do when the entire team turns against you? [closed]

I had a great relationship with my team in the past .... There is one person who's been with the company nearly 20 years. He's survived it all! Not because he is a brilliant professional, but because ...
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Bullying group work [closed]

I am working with a group of 3 people, we are only students and we are doing a project. At our last meeting they accused me that I am liar because I missed some meetings because I was lazy and tired ...
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What to do with a coercive or bully boss? [closed]

I happen to work with a boss who overreacts to vague reasons. He has impulsive/ bipolar behavior, where he is fine with one incident and the next day/month he loses his mind over the same. e.g we had ...
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What options do I have when my boss is rude and I cannot leave my job?

I joined a company as an employee a month ago. I signed a 6 months contract, so I can't leave this job. It was nice at work in the beginning, but now my boss has started overburdening me. He is also ...
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Is this a minor workplace bullying?

Just some few questions. I am not sure how to know a bullying or not. Yesterday when I started working the head supervisor called me and sort of scolded me in front of 2 other supervisor. I did not ...
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What should I do when coworker insults me [closed]

We have an online group to discuss stuff we work on. There are multiple people in that group; those people are located in multiple countries. I asked a question there. A coworker (from remote location)...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life

This is happening in central Europe. So basically I got this co-worker (let's call her Stacy) who regularly tries to undermine me. She disrupts my work, puts me in a bad light and doesn't cooperate ...
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Does being told you're not liked and asked to quit meet the legal definition of harassment under the UK Equality Act of 2010?

I've been looking at the UK Equality Act 2010 act and it says harassment is unwanted or unwelcome behaviour which is meant to or has the effect of violating your dignity. If people literally come up ...
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Defamation of character

I have been a victim of workplace bullying for over 4 years. My supervisor goes to people and tells them I am rude and anti-social. He did this to me on my 2nd week of starting and told me a colleague ...
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Quit job because of bullying; don't know what to tell prospective employers

Back in January 2018 I quit my job because of my department manager's constant bullying. He used to almost always make fun of my weight: He once told me that maybe if I had lost some weight, I would ...
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How long should a respondent in an investigation have before they are investigated? [closed]

How long, is too long, for a respondent to have, whilst responding to an accusation of workplace bullying? For context: The accused has my official complaint for 2+ months and has yet to be ...
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What are the pros and cons of escalating a personnel conflict issue to HR?

I work in a field where my work must be reviewed by a more senior colleague. This colleague is not my direct line-manager. On a number of occasions he has questioned my ability, and that of another ...
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Situational help needed - Teasing colleagues

I faced a bad situation few days back. On a team outing, I asked a bad question and totally unaware that my question was wrong. My colleagues laughed out so loud and teased me so badly that I felt so ...
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I do most of my team's work. How to get the work more evenly distributed? [closed]

I work in a 2-member development team. We have been working at the client's site for a month. I have done about 85% of the project work, and my coworker has done the rest. This coworker refuses to ...
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When is something banter and when is it just pure bullying? [closed]

I think everyone's idea of a great workplace is very different and even between different teams, the experiences can be quite vast. I've not experienced it myself directly but, I feel I witness this ...
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How can I best prepare for a meeting with HR about a coworkers Passive-Agressive Conflict with me?

I work with a male coworker who I'd describe as a passive-aggressive bully. He has angry outbursts daily, several times a day, over every little noise in the office. If another coworker coughs, or ...
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How to deal with 8 months of harressment and false accusations? [closed]

So I started a new job about 8 months ago and for the first week or two things were going quite well. I got on well with my line manager and made a good impression due to completing my work quickly ...
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How to handle a bully developer? [closed]

I find myself stuck in an uncomfortable position at work. There is a developer who is well regarded by management and other devs. For some reason he has developed some animosity towards me and will ...
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Prospective employer “begging” me for a second chance

Unusual situation here. I was contacted for a "dream role" at a small company. I have been searching for a similar role for a long time and these type of roles are very competitive so I was very ...
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What and how to explain recruiter about quitting job due to bullying [duplicate]

I have been having serious problem with my head of department. TLDR: If I said it was day, she would argue and say it's night. She was really rude, would speak with me rudely in meetings, shout at ...
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How can I stop my colleagues from making fun of me?

My colleagues make dirty jokes about me, gossip about my personal life, laugh at me and try to make a fool of me. For example, they make fun of and make dirty jokes about my family. They laugh at me ...
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Workplace condones bullying - resignation letters and future interviews

Note: With respect to the possible duplicate of the question relating to "badmouthing a previous employer" - there is no intent on doing such a thing, I am asking for the diplomatic way out re both ...