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burnt out due to toxic env and culture [closed]

I am a software engineer and I inherited and started to own a project after teams re-org. While I have worked on some parts of the project, I don't know 100%. Even before the teams re-org, my ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

I work as an engineer for a large company in the US and am facing challenges with a co-worker who exhibits offensive behavior towards me. We are part of a three-person core team within a larger group, ...
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Addressing rude tone at work

I work for a large company. I was in a call and a team mate, who's a contractor from a well known consultancy (I am a FTE at the company) spoke to his peer (also from same consultancy) in a very ...
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How to deal with colleague making fun of my decisions [duplicate]

Context: I work as a developer and support specialist in a medium-sized business with a lot of offices around the country. We often get calls from different offices that require technical assistance ...
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How to deal with workplace bully? [closed]

I only started my new job a week ago and already feel like Im being bullied by someone there. It's hard to confront her directly as it seems to be different things she does each time. I would rather ...
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Protecting Myself From Bullying When the Manager Abuses Their Minority Status To Cover Bullying

I am facing with animosity, bullying, and targeted harassment from my manager. Although there is evidence, the upper management keeps silent. My manager abuses their minority status as a cover. My ...
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Being workplace bullied - would it be a career damaging move if I sought out an increased WFH accommodation? [closed]

I am being workplace bullied both verbally at meetings and in git comments. My colleagues also feel I am being bullied by the one specific individual who is causing all of this. They feel the trigger ...
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Concerned about scrum master trying to take credit for my work, how to approach boss?

I am writing a document for our team. Our team is supposed to submit feedback on it, and I am supposed to upload my work to a shared drive for it to be read/reviewed. Under the guise of turning the ...
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How to deal with invasive scrum master who is nitpiking my MR to the tune of 135 comments?

I started a new job a little less than six months ago as a Software Engineer and it has been nothing but an uphill battle. I have the most experience in our team, and from what I have experienced and ...
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How do I combat an industry-wide smear campaign?

TLDR: After a long reputable career, I have seen two workplaces that I have not been comfortable in. Now after leaving one, I believe I have been smear campaigned, can't get in contact with my ...
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Would I be jeopardizing a working relationship if I voiced my displeasure with a coworkers actions?

I work in the United States. I have been working with a co-worker, Jane, for 9 months. We do similar work. She has over 30 years of experience on the job. She is an invaluable resource. I can ask her ...
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What should I do about a bully at work? [closed]

In my work, there is a person that disturbs me really harshly: he always bumps into my shoulder on purpose, he always curses me when he sees me, he always does from distance moves like he is punching ...
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What should I do about pseudo-friendly behaviour from a colleague?

I moved to Norway for work just under 2 months ago. The work is in the IT sector. My immediate supervisor is in the main IT department of the company where I work, and I was dispatched to another ...
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Bullying at workplace

I have joined a new software company and facing problems on multiple fields. Wanted suggestions on how to handle these and continue without getting discouraged. My team lead (who recently got ...
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How to write a letter of complaint about mean girls

I am in the UK. I understand that there are 'protected characteristics' that one is fully justified in raising complaints about if violated and are taken very seriously by the management however, ...
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Is my employer making my job unnecessarily hard or assigning useless work that helps nobody? [closed]

My employer said that they wanted me to copy and paste and itemize all the things in invoices part of a contract we receive and copy into excel. I can't just list the total amount of an invoice, I ...
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A peer "gives" me tasks in public and makes it look like I work for him

Summary: I have a manager "Alan". "Bob" is not my manager but during meetings he often gives me tasks and talks about his participation in my work. I feel uncomfortable but my ...
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How to handle a interview where my current employer will sabotage my reputation? [duplicate]

When interviewing, how should I handle a situation where my current employer will totally destroy my reputation and thus sabotage my chances of getting a future job? I also have Autism Spectrum ...
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I am leaving my job. Gave two weeks notice. My boss wants a signed NDA. Should I ? What's in it for me?

There was been continuous between myself and the doctor's office manager. I met with the doctor and explained that I could no longer take the manager's beratement and aggressive behavior. He accepted ...
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Is this a blackmail or am I imagining things? [closed]

So I was asking a Growth Manager some question about vacation days, because we didn't get the information before, and I asked him specifically, because he asked us about the vacation days we took, and ...
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Can an employer in the U.S. establish an anti-bullying policy apart from formal legal harassment? [closed]

My research has indicated that bullying in the U.S. is currently not prohibited legally under federal or any state law. I haven't seen any info in my research about whether an employer could set up a ...
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Can an employer pressure you into seeing their counsellor or psychologist ? And if so, if you refuse to go what can they do? [closed]

I have been experiencing workplace bullying and took the matter to management who referred the matter onto HR. And now they are pressuring me to see their workplace psychologist. Would also like to ...
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Senior wants me gone, one way or another

I've been working my first real tech job (as a fullstack web developer) at a local company for almost a year now. Prior to that, I had 2 summer internships and some personal projects. At the current ...
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Is This Workplace Bullying [closed]

Awhile ago I had a negative experience working in a team and this experience is still bothering me and distracts me from work because it was left unresolved and occupies my mind. I can't tell if my ...
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Should I confront coworker over behavior [closed]

There is a group of people at work I call the Pack. Every few months or so the Pack targets a victim and starts a whisper campaign. Sometimes the victim is forced out of the company sometimes they ...
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How to deal with an abusive boss

Our department has a very high turnover rate from people leaving after being repeatedly yelled at and demeaned by our boss. This is causing more strain on the remaining members due to unfinished ...
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How to deal with senior coworker harassing me, stabbing me in the back, and undermining my work? [closed]

One of my senior coworkers who is in a position of significant responsibility hates me and has been hiding it for months by behaving like a wolf in sheep's clothing to protect his status and ...
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Bullied via Zoom

I was in a Zoom Meeting at work. Sue was sharing her screen, Bill was leading the discussion, Anne, myself and two Data Engineers were in attendance. We are all peers and individual contributors. ...
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Senior colleague with intimidating behaviour [closed]

What can I do about a senior colleague who is always playing petty mind games, e.g. routinely ignores me, is very slow to respond to messages, work queries etc, sometimes by days! He is cold and aloof....
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getting bullied to resign instead of getting fired

I've been working in Germany in a company with a permanent contract for 2 years. Lately, my manager has seen that my performance is not up to the level it should be and therefore I got 2 options: ...
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Strange line manager/colleague behaviour how to react?

It happened few weeks ago I was discussing with a colleague (name him Paul) about work, the conversation was about plans for a project we are both involved in. Paul was extremely confused and worried ...
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Clashed with management, How to deal with fallout?

I am currently an apprentice as a developer in a German company (25 employees). The job started well, but in the last two months things soured. Background: My contract states, that I have to bring a ...
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I am a new employee and HR is picking on me. How to establish myself as un-bullyable early on?

I recently started a job at an engineering company and I am the only female on my team. I have the impression that the female HR manager is trying to put me down. She never does this to the newbie ...
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Boss giving criticism about things that are impossible to define or validate e.g "you are not giving your maximum". Is that bullying? How to address?

I am having problems with my boss. He always criticises me by saying things you cannot validate. For example: you are not giving your maximum. I reply by asking how exactly do you "define" the ...
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Coworker tells lies and damages reputation

I was promoted to a new position in a new place with a new team three years ago. I was assigned to assist and take over leadership of part of the workload of a coworker. The coworker became jealous. ...
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Defense against HR bully

Today a HR representative (G) made a mistake; she left confidential material in the printer, and someone unknown put it on the desk of the person (P) whose name appears on top of the documents. P went ...
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How do you forgive/let go/move on from a bully ex employer

It’s been about 7 months since I was fired from a startup where the COO was bullying me into leaving. For instance: I was ambushed into meeting rooms a few times where he’d point a finger and tell ...
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Quit a job after only 9 months, not sure how to talk about it down the line when seeking positions

I just quit a job after 9 months. Landed another job. Here is why I quit: Job involved a relocation that was not going well at all. I really disliked the new area, and missed the old area. I was ...
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Stop engineer from planning "bully projects"

I work for a enginering company where a few senior engineers got into a large fight that caused a lot of concern. The more senior engineer "stone walled" the not as senior engineer apparently, and the ...
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Confidentiality broken?? Major UK employer [closed]

I work a for a very well known unique boating company in the south of the UK. Our team leader recently had a grievance put in against him and we had to give statements on his attitude etc, then we ...
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Bullying at workplace: I'm confused how to take action

This is an issue I'm struggling with for several months, and it's bullying. The bully is a colleague working on the same project as me who calls my name with a certain suffix, and he is very well ...
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My colleague treats me like he's my boss, yet we're on the same level

I started my current role a few months ago as an analyst, joining another person who had started one month before me, with the very same job title. He's two years older than me, but he treats me like ...
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How to explain to interviewer why I left my job due to bullying/bad work environment? [duplicate]

I worked at this company for 6 months, about 3 months into my job, I started getting made fun of and laughed at from roughly, 5-7 people. This behavior continued pretty much everyday, up until I quit/...
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Should I report a former managers abuse?

So I recently left a job where I was being bullied pretty badly. Now I've found a better job, and I'm happy I left, but I'm wondering whether I should lodge a complaint against the manager who acted ...
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Is there anything I can do to warn others about a bad company?

I was very successful in my position until I started to be bullied. I was criticised in an offensive, not constructive way. Rumours were spread about me. I was portrayed in an extremely negative light ...
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Is having a boss this rude normal?

I am currently working at my first "real" job. Everyone is nice, except my boss. When I am talking to him, he will often visibly roll his eyes at me. He also puts me down in front of my coworkers, ...
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable

My boss has a history of bullying multiple people in the past to work crazy hours to meet absolutely unrealistic deadlines which have led to numerous cases of serious depression and even one (...
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How to hold a strong mentality if your boss is bullying you at work?

I'll try to be fair and explain the entire situation, if I am at fault please tell me. Till a few weeks ago everything with work was fine, until I started taking too long to finish a task and my boss ...
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How to deal with co-worker that is more managerial than engineer and somewhat bully?

John has been with the team for a long time. He started his career as a lawyer (1 year) and then made the shift to become an engineer by getting a degree in computer science. At work, he seems to ...
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Line-manager is denying me training as an apprentice and has started threatening & bullying me

I've been working as a graphic design apprentice for the past 10 months. Part of the requirement for me to pass is to take 20% off the job training. My line-manager initially asked me if I could work ...
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